hmmm.. very interesting topic. to be honest with you TS, i havent read through the last 6 pages of this thread, but i'll give you my unbiased views on this matter and pretend i didnt read any posts from other LYN members. i've been doing alot of pondering over this topic myself - i'm a guy btw

one thing i'm curious about is - why is all the focus on him, and not you as well? if you're talking about marriage etc etc, a future together, having kids together etce etc, isnt the main focus supposed to be on creating a family, working things out together for better or worse etc etc? you can question how much he has to contribute to the marriage (or should i say your future security), but hey, you've got to think about what you can contribute as well right? quote - Behind every successful man is a wise woman?


another very important question IMHO - what if the sh1t hits the fan one day (touch wood), and he suddenly loses his job/his health deteriorates badly or for some reason loses all income? what will become of your marriage? or lets not go that far for the time being.... lets talk about your current(correct me if it hasnt happened yet) engagement. would you leave him? i wont make any personal judgement as i dont know you personally, but based on a wild guess i think you would if you thought you could do better. no offence.