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TSMaryWong
post Feb 27 2008, 11:42 AM, updated 18y ago

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Well,
i think this have occur several couples.

my situation is...He, Buddhist. Me, Christian.
At the beginning of the relationship, i once force him to become a christian.
but then, i give up coz i dun wanna him to be so difficult in choosing himself and me.
so i respect him.

now after we together more than 2 years.
he now showing up that i must become a buddhist to so we can marry.
the thing is, my parents will nvr let us marry if he is not christian. But his parents doesnt have this issue, i guess.
so he said, a girl married to a man should follow the man's religion. and must work together as husband and wife
and this is been practices since olden days.

so i argued, i said this is kinda ridiculous. How can possible you can force me to be something that i dun wanna be?
i nvr insist him to become a christian, but now he's forcing me now. There's not respect, discussion and further more.

I'm a strong minded woman, who will not be easy to change my decision.
Everything issues other than to change my religion i will be fine with it.
but why cant he just be tolerate me and stop forcing me?

if you are in the situation, wouldnt you will ask that
"IF malaysia want every citizens to become MUSLIMS, and you have no freedom to choose ur religion,
do you wanna?" shakehead.gif

he speechless and say he will leave the country then.
i said now is not leave or leave but about the relationship.
relationship is not easy to say leave...but it's painful to make a decision that you dun wanna.

what do u all think? unsure.gif
TSMaryWong
post Feb 27 2008, 08:40 PM

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well, thanks for the advises.

And here's the part 2.

After yesterday disaster, this morning i talked to him thru msn.
telling him that i wont be possible to convert.
and
I WILL ALSO NEVER WANT TO FORCE anymore.

however,
he said that what he sees current relationship is for the goodness for our future.
he dun want to have a family with many issues.

p/s: My family is some kinda strict and not understanding. Especially my mum, but I always believe...I still her daughter, their sister...this relationship will nvr be break up even though i have insist to marry to a man who is not christian. Besides, Child Always WIN. IF the couple is strong.

well, i dunno how's our relationship is going on.
But, if u said He just wanna be small gas, or making excuses then it wont be possible.
Why would he wanna spend so much sorrow in the relationship just try to leave?
Direct...Straight away KILL will be better than SLOWLY DIE!!!!
aint that better?

After making so much noises, arguements...
it's some kinda WEIRD!!!

--Continue the story---

then after mentioned my intension.
he said it is just a suggestion but not to ask me to give answer or convert in NO TIME.

well, i said this how also will come in the future...

Thus, this is not a relationship that easily to give up as we really spend alot of time with each other...spending every moments together.
Is like DADAH d...>_<

then, till now...
He be quite...and i think he's trying to let it go?

P/s: yesterday he did say if i cannot convert then our relationship have no future, what for to continue a relationship that cannot get marry?

SOME KINDA JERK LA....

what i think is, RELIGION is important for me...
but doesnt have to be important to my partner to force him to become a christian.
unless, if i do so, then is to fulfill the wish from the parents.
is not my will.

being a couple of husband and wife,
he said it is important if BOTH having the same religion for better understanding for each other then oni have peaceful family.

Well, i kinda stuck here.

SAME?BOTH?
RELIGION IS a thing that LESS VISUALIZE...
a couple being together is ALL ABOUT U AND HIM/HER...
that is caring about EACH OTHER either soul and body...

THUS, he's aint really know about his religion too...this is why i stuck...coz a person some kinda free thinker why he wanna do this?

I SUSPECT it is his parents.
As he dad....wat also ask god...

even small thing also ask god...
the wife also cannot tahan d

sigh...so complicated...

but i dun mind about this,
as long as dun kacau our relationship then I EVERY THING IS OK...

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