Before everything is improve to couple, how do us to judge whether the guy or girl is good or not?????? As normal try to be friend or get close first or know from his or her closely friend or by feeling etc..... I dont want to wasting time to date any more.... Any faster way to judge the people...........

Do we need to gamble our love for it???

Please give suggest

what i do is befriend all the guys i meet and see what happens
if there's chemistry,something will surely happen
but that's just me

no short-cut for this thing....

time tells everything ... u cannot judge people who havent done anything good/bad yet

when u dont pay attention much to a guy who always notice u, then u noe he's a good guy.

(if he doesnt start doin weird stuffs la)

I suppose you can automatically get the feeling that the person is a good gal/guy...I don't know but it's just me..^^ Women's intuition?

Subjective question again.

That partner of yours can be a good lover for you for 6months,2 years or a good 5 or 10 years but when the feelings fade you guys will get annoyed by each other.And it's not like you guys are not good in nature.

There's no fast way to judge,everyone will be happy happy if there's such option and this rotten world won't be a sad sad one.Time will tells.Some effort and gamble is needed and that's why true love will only come to you that way.

Thanks!

wrong..tats y so many gals out there get cheated by guys..wuahahahaha

date for 3 years and no ML. if the guy still wan proposed u that means he rili love u.

some girls are a bit naive, dumb and materialistic.. the guys can be kind for a week and he's romeo on earth already.. these are the girls that got cheated..

many women are far more smarter already now..

there is no way to judge people good or bad

nowadays too many evil people with face of angel

best way is to hire a private investigator or if no money just go stalk ur partner urself.

lol.. hire until PI..

give it time..you will surely realize.

im a good guy

for me there is several level before determine who is good who is bad..

1st level
Filter 3 most important things
SMOKE
DRINK
GAMBLE..

The after that only slow slow decide.. because after 1st level only can join my candidate list..

I think drinking occasionally is acceptable enuff.

giv time around 5month.. then u can judge him/her
love is not gmble la..
unless u jus wanna be the playgirl/playboy

This post has been edited by xixo_12: Feb 11 2008, 01:48 PM

Erm..... very hard to judge guy and gal fom first date...

Give urself a chance to date maybe 3 times



A guy who can sacrifice for u is a good guy
A guy who care u more than himself is a good guy
A guy who is virgin is a good guy
A guy who never date other gal before is a good guy
A guy who wiling to saving money is a good guy

lol i agree 110%!!! hahahaha dun be tricked by a guy who spends alot of money on u, cuz he may think that he "bought" u adi and therefore take advantage of you! A guy who knows how to save for the future is mature.. if he can't take care of himself, how to take care of another person? therefore, find a guy with the said traits

those descriptions fit losers best.

Are you crazy to believe this??

A guy who can sacrifice for you - might be a psychotic possessive person
A guy who care u more than himself - might be a loser and an underachiever
A guy who is virgin - might be someone nobody wants
A guy who never date other gal before - might be someone who would not know how to pamper a girl
A guy who wiling to saving money - might be stingy and a cheapskate

See my next post for some real tips!

dun just look at negative side.. thinking positive lor..aiya

Chinese saying: Mountains and valleys may change but characters are hard to change.

I don't like to stereotype but if you want to judge a person fast:

1. Always check with a few reliable people about the person. His friends may tell you more about him than he will. Ask his friends. Some truthful ones will tell you more than you need to know, especially when drunk.

2. Observe his friends. The same kind always flock together.

3. Check his history. Ask about his old girlfriends. Ask his friends about his ex girlfriends. Don't listen to what he has to say.. listen to how he says it. Does he talk bad about them? Does he give excuses about how it didn't work out? Are they very short relationships?

I am a guy. I have friends who have deceived so many girls by the things they say and they do. These girls are so gullible and stupid. Get real girls. You believe things that you want to hear and you are ignoring everything else!

LOL... Let me give my 2 cents...

A guy who sacrifice for you - KNOWS that he has to make an EFFORT to tc of someone else, not only himself.
Hwv, I strongly disagree with the 2nd part... The guy MUST TC of himself well b4 he is capable of caring for another.. if he cares for u more, means he is a possesive person... very scary one.. and can be too sensitive...
Virgin is a good guy.. He knows moral values, cares for himself n his gf... wat if they break up, then the gal will regret giving her 1st to him? lol
guy who never date b4... well depends on how old he is la... if young then okla.. if old d not yet paktor then beware.. hahaha
save money is not cheapskate... hehehe

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Added on February 12, 2008, 9:18 pmand YES, i totally agree with this post... taking into account all these, i found my very adorable Angelicious guy also, take time to learn abt the guy... nothing to rush about...

This post has been edited by shecapricorn: Feb 12 2008, 09:18 PM

Swt, i am 26, never paktor before..... coz i dun want simply find my princess

I dont try try in love de...

lol...are you a good guy then?

Never scold or hit a gal before consider good guy or not.

Never treat a gal like slave consider good guy or not

Always buy cute cute doll for gal consider good guy or not

Very hard to tell... cuz Girl A might be good when in relationship with Guy A but not good when in relationship with Guy B... So all depends on issue... As people say... love has no formula... So I agree with others saying "Time will tell"...

Also, I think the loss would be lesser than the girl if he got the wrong partner... Like I have seen this girl kena "hit" by her bf (domestic violent) after being with this girl for A YEAR...

You also cannot tell if the guy is good or bad what from the start... But I do pray for happiness for all the couples on earth...

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Added on June 17, 2008, 11:51 pmNever scold or hit a gal before, Never treat a gal like slave, Always buy cute cute doll for gal but not being responsible and give time for the girl, the guy is good or not?

This post has been edited by rotigal: Jun 17 2008, 11:51 PM

My definition of a good guy:
1. Never smoke, gamble and drink.
2. Not selfish and willing to help those who needed help.
3. A person who love and care for his family
4. Honest and reliable.
5. Understanding and caring.

agree dude..but ask back urself...nowadayz hard 2 find a guy good like dat lolz...

I've found one hahaha......

u cant judge sum1 whose smokin or drinkin..
don b such a doink

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Added on June 18, 2008, 3:03 pmim one of them XD *wink winK*

This post has been edited by vioxmonsta: Jun 18 2008, 03:03 PM

"Never smoke, gamble and drink."

How many girls say this...ultimately end up with a man who does the above.

Edit/continue:

...and reject/ignore/want-to-be-friends-only a guy who avoids those 3 vices.

This post has been edited by prozac: Jun 18 2008, 10:31 PM

prozac -> livin on fluoxetine ain't such a good thing after all......

Still got this kind of guy in this world? i think he is the one last good guy here..

never drink can die oh. well anyway there are but it's really rare to come by people who don't smoke leh. and gamble.

but smoking, gambling and drinking doesn't make a person bad. you can be non-smoker/non-drinker/non-gambler and still be a bad person.

A "non-to-all" can be a playboy too.. play with your feeling n "heart".. up n down.. if so i rather choose the one who "yes-to-all" but he is loyal n honest.. bcoz those habit can b changed but character/attitude hard to change o maybe impossible at all..

good for you.

it's actually good to not smoke, it's good for the couple. you're not killing your wife and your kids too. it's not a healthy thing.

gambling and drinking are considered unhealthy practices as well. affecting finance and health.

while it doesn't make a person good, not doing those things do improve quality of life. which is why don't drink/smoke/gamble.

My father is one of the good guy in this world.. he quit smoking once my mum is pregnant n having us..

Anyway, a honest, reliable n responsible guy just a good guy..

a good guy must owez protect themselves,

their good nature can easily be abused by gals.

effective way to see if a chick is using a guy is to test them n play dumb at the same time.

This post has been edited by olman: Jun 19 2008, 12:56 PM

haha!! i found one also.. lol!! very very RARE!!!!

den good luck 2 u den...find de "good" one..haha

The irony of it is that there are increasing numbers of Malaysian women who drink, smoke and even gamble and yet they don't wish to date or marry men who indulge in such habits.

well, the person i kinda like smokes on and off, drinks, and used to gamble a lot and some more used to be a womanizer, can

and i never smoke, can hardly drink and only gamble cards during cny, although i have a reputation to break hearts

for me, it doesn't bother me at all as long as

1. he doesn't smoke too much (one cig every blue moon ok what)
2. he doesn't drink until he gets wasted and/or gets into trouble
3. he doesn't gamble over rm1k money away (but he doesn't gamble anymore)

we can pick and dream of our ideal partner, but in the end if we like someone, means like already lah GG as long as his vices aren't excessive, i don't see what the big deal is




for me though he's a good guy, because talking to him, i know he won't hurt me or anyone else on purpose

"A guy who never date other gal before is a good guy" ...
To me, if thr's no dates before, thr's always no improvement on the way he'll b treating u as he might not be as mature as others yet

"A guy who never date other gal before is a good guy"....

sweat.....

then if a guy dated before is a bad guy? this doesnt make sense....

what about the way round...."A girl who pak tor before is a bad girl..."
do you like that? LOL...

btw, i am a girl, so dun say i am on the guy's side bcoz i'm a guy....i'm not on anybody's side, just on the right side....

have a nice day!!