Jan 19 2008, 05:05 PM
QUOTE(SolidSnake666 @ Jan 19 2008, 12:15 PM)
haha, appearance. As unimportant as we want it to be, ironically, it's the thing everyone sees FIRST when they look at you. Plus, as many of us has said, the media. It's a passive brainwashing that makes everyone expect only the beautiful.
For me, I used to be in this category where I'm only acceptable as a friend. It's very hurting when you try to kow someone...and kononnya, the reason they reject you is, I really think we should be good friends. But they never really tell you that, you're too fat to be my boyfriend.
Due to that kinda trauma, and people used to call me, Fatboy, vainness suddenly befell me. Lol. Worked out, and tried so hard to lose weight. Managed to finally get my shape when I was in Form4. AND THEN people start giving me the right responses. The first thing they ever say when they see me is "Wow, you lost weight! =)"
It's not to say appearance is everything. But it's just inconvenient, that our society nowadays demand perfection. JDramas, KDramas, Anime....Perfect guys there. And when they see people who're slightly imperfect, they shun.
Truly, there is a need for more people to see what's inside rather than just looks. I have a girlfriend. And I admit that she's not the best looking girl out there. All my friends gave me weird looks when I told them. They'd probably just give her 5/10. But what they don't know is that what's in her makes her so much more beautiful than all the superficial leng luis out there. And that's what matters, doesn't it? The heart.
my bet is on that you were friends before becoming a couple.For me, I used to be in this category where I'm only acceptable as a friend. It's very hurting when you try to kow someone...and kononnya, the reason they reject you is, I really think we should be good friends. But they never really tell you that, you're too fat to be my boyfriend.
Due to that kinda trauma, and people used to call me, Fatboy, vainness suddenly befell me. Lol. Worked out, and tried so hard to lose weight. Managed to finally get my shape when I was in Form4. AND THEN people start giving me the right responses. The first thing they ever say when they see me is "Wow, you lost weight! =)"
It's not to say appearance is everything. But it's just inconvenient, that our society nowadays demand perfection. JDramas, KDramas, Anime....Perfect guys there. And when they see people who're slightly imperfect, they shun.
Truly, there is a need for more people to see what's inside rather than just looks. I have a girlfriend. And I admit that she's not the best looking girl out there. All my friends gave me weird looks when I told them. They'd probably just give her 5/10. But what they don't know is that what's in her makes her so much more beautiful than all the superficial leng luis out there. And that's what matters, doesn't it? The heart.
if a girl is fugly, and a total stranger, for hell would anyone doing quite okay respond to her initiatives.
unless compassion.
okay looks can be complemented with nice demeanour, but no amount of nice personality can make a stranger like you when they do not even want to get to know you.
then again, if the guy has already treated you as a friend(family type), its a sad case also.
[addon]
however, hope is not lost.
recent case study, angie. she got pregnant and a quite okay looking bf. try to get some tips from her if you're really desperate.
This post has been edited by kenny B: Jan 19 2008, 05:07 PM
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