Ever since ayam haz becomes a father, work becum not EZ.
Previously can goyan kaki etc abit, now work very hard thinking of baby cause very motivating, mau better future for kidz. Also seldom out with friends cause thought of those time can be better utilized to lie down sleep beside kids better.

Nao at work can't wait to go home see baby, play with baby, carry them around bring go buy grocery and then play toys with them.

/K how do you deal with missing your kid whilst you at work.

This post has been edited by babykon101: Dec 17 2025, 05:28 PM

i lack motivation to work

maybe starting a family will the motivation comes back

enjoy while u can till they start giving u cold shoulder

hopefully your kid not end up like charsiew borrowing loan from ahlong in phuture

This. Now my son is 13 years old, I started to miss his 11 years old version.

good time flies.

What toy u play with kid??

Congrats on being a dad.

You work thinking of your kid lo. It sounds like you have a daughter hahahaha.

Why? Cuz prefer play game on phone n see peers than see you?

being a mother even harder

When u absorbed with work, won't think kids
U r still not focus enough

later your waifu tell you, "if you miss so much can take night shift wake up at 4 am tukar pampers/bancuh susu"

Me too. Now eldest is 11 yo. Headache

I work from home. So my kid is here with me all the time

to reduce the stress, you should have at least 3 kids.

The hard part is yet to come.

Year 1, hardly any sleep. Year 2, feeding and chasing. Year 3, repeat year 2.

try chew and eat ur baby

Kids need a lot of attention, care, love, motivation, guides, inspiration...etc. You can't just tell them to read books or do homework alone. Even play toys too, can't let them do it alone. Got to sit beside them, go through the process with them

Don’t discourage TS, society need more selfless ppl like TS to avoid rapid depopulation

Ayam’s bet is with Skynet.

Not necessary.When they reach certain age like 7 yr, you don't need to insert yourself into their attention all the time. You just need to be there. In the background, respond when needed, else just observe.

my challenging time started.

1. eldest - starting to rebel
2. second - starting to demand
3. third - just insanity.

seldom?

My friend time totally zero right now

you lepak sangat, your son will lepak for you in the future

All the best TS
this is a no-return-ticket
jia you

Normal.

Know yr goals, work on heading to those goals.

Some say autopilot, but a man gotta do what a man gotta do.

Headstrong

Im a father of 3 before i was 30.

This post has been edited by Chrix: Dec 17 2025, 06:58 PM

Bcum professional daddy lol 😆

Like him! he is his son's manager. Cutest child star?

Yes agree

i have son and dotter

That is why people keep on making babies cause always miss the older version of their children 🤔

salahan hamsap.

This post has been edited by Skylinestar: Dec 17 2025, 07:13 PM

When they are small yes they are cute,

Wait till they grown a bit they will counter ur word and make u mad which is the reflection of how u treat ur parent back in those days...owaiii

Soon you realize, the family depends on you, and u hope u healthy enough to work through every hardship to earn money, ensure baby grow up.

Then think about their education and really hope nothing happens to your job. This goes until your kid finish uni, probably even after.

Ayam WFH

Got dotter 1 years++ now. Setiap hari look for me. Awww miss her everytime I go opis.

wait until they reach 4 yrs old onwards, u will yell and scream at them

Yeah. Something like that. He is in his room most of the time other than meal time. No more hanging out with us at the living room. Whenever I give advice, I hear grunts. Only had conversation during meal time, and during sending and picking him up to school.

Me outstation also no more video calls. Still got 3 years before my daughter also become the same

They want iPhone iPad,
Wifi said must international school
Apa lancio class also got tuition, music

30k a month also not enough

Being parents not easy. i have nephew. Once above 9 I cannot stand his character anymore. Really minta penampar. And parents before having kid will say they gonna raise them old skool way, no gadgets. Podah. At 2 years old cannot tahan ready and give ipad.

Aiyo.

Just finish watching Edgar Wright The Running Man...

Q : Family?

Ben : Everything

They say children are our karma,
either we owe them, or they owe us.

pls born more, the gov thank you for your contribution cause i aint plan to have kids either way

Jiayouuu tsss

It's a lifetime commitment. Takes a special kind of man to endure through all the way to the end. Welcome to the club ts.

Congrats yo

Outsourced Montessori/daycare

I work from home, 24/7 with baby. Totally different from you lol

Luckily you work at office, try 24/7 of constant baby cry, every few hours for 2-3 months

Gm
Year 1 - MIL helped

Year 2 - my eldest no, grateful she’s always been mature and listen to us, angel kid. 2nd son - half half, now he’s 2.. always say no no no

Year 3 - my eldest has build her own personality, chatter box, love to play, love to be independent, can express herself what she want, dont like, why. I can be gentle dad and talk logic + reason with her, and she learn fast

ayam same , just substitute kids with cats

God all ayam wish is to have a smart daughter .

you called them men, father but they are just grown up kids... go figure

Always a bless

But only the first child is like this. Next kids already normalized.

soon to be..read the tips here..not bad..guees i will need more coffee and sacrifice alot

Ask and you shall receive.

No wonder many lie flat

Ts better ask mod to remove this thread

understand bro.... me too...
just sabar bro... later go back only play with kid...

Wait until they discover YouTube and bunch of game steamers and you will discover your worthiness to them ain’t much.

i set my daughter pic as my phone wake wallpaper.
motivation for work.
later evening will play with her, gado2 a bit. lari2 a bit.

just buy another house... does the same trick.... at least anytime u can sell off the house.

EZ, didnt make any kidz.

The world is oledi overpopulated.

I think this is the time to become friend2 with your teenage kid.
70:40 70% dad, 40% friend.

I think your upbringing will also try to undo the bad and emulate the good the treatment you had when you're a teen too.

10% come from where ?

YOLO. happily fucuk around or fucuk onli 1. ur choice

go for it, it will come back with a family behind you supporting you

wow, really can't imagine that.
Nao evelidei i kam back he seys Baby cry when baba go work and smile. damn the heartmelt.

yah i already did that for the first year. Damn everytime go his crib first thing to do is to put finger below nose to see still breathing or not.

Happiest when he poop, once decided to go 3 days without poop i headache.

how old are your kids now? cherish these moments, really cannot get back once they grow up

wah semua so cute and you are able to upbring them all so nicely. Congrats bro.

whoa. 1 kid i also pending already even though have pinoy maid. Can't imagine with 3.

seriously not enoug, you mad me counted and open another stupid thread. my bills alone is also 20k, and god knows how much more bills i haven't even counted in.

House Loans
HL1 - 7200, mgt fee 420
HL2 - 1500, mgt fee 200
HL3 - Settled, mgt fee 320

Car Loan
black car - 4865

Bills
Celcom - 500 ( 3 phones, 1 wifi)
TNB - 400
Insurance - 2300
Maid - 2200
School Fees - 1600

their cry is cute, mcm impossibru for parents to dislike it. Try when your baby cry use the opportunity to check his teeth, his gum etc. Hehe, that's what i always do and he stop crying.

you have a very blessed life bro

some moments could last lifetime memories
try snap photo video as much help u recall what were u striving for once

ktards maths la ni, apa 70% 40% can 110%. fulamak next level mmg ktard math

Okla my 2kids went private schools in secondary,now 1 in uni (overseas),other soon. Not need earn ktard level 20k+ but near it,but as I age found chill job almost 40% off ,still ok,got some hses, and last 1 paying off soon.

damn, must have sacrificed a lot to get them there. I really salute those like you able to raise kids properly until go uni, get proper job and all. legends man.

Maybe extra 10% come from massage spa center

Jus wrk hard but do spend time with family,kids, they really grow fast and do have some holiday outings with them when young.
Those were the best memories.

This is the consequence of pancut dalam

trying my best. 95% credit goes to my partner. she did all the hardwork.

Your time invested in your kid will be repaid manifold. Don't try to slack and just feed phone/tab.

lucky man, found a good wife.

ktard maths la
Engagement farming

there will be a time when you pick up your child, and you won’t know it but it will be the last time you pick them up

suddenly they all grown up

True. I remember last time when baby bring to toy store can slowly introduce toys and then take 1 put in their hands.

Now see the signboard far2 already begging to be let out of stroller and self run in already.

make new baby yeah~~~

by doing your best, so you don't need to OT or u-turn balik opis out of the blue ayam was in your shoes too when kids baru born, very excited to get home spend time with the LO
good luck fellow papabear, enjoy it whilst it last - they grow up so very quickly

as always, PSA for all the soon-to-be/new/experienced daddy and mama (uncle, aunty, grandpa and nenek also can ya ) :-

Set the CHILD REMINDER on your WAZE app.
How?
Open Waze -> Settings > Reminders > Child Reminder.

What it does?
It reminds you TO CHECK YOUR CAR UPON ARRIVAL each time you reached your destination - double check your car seats BEFORE YOU depart your car

Thinking back all started because of woman . Knn 1 I tell you la , you stay banglow also she will said her best friend 1 bigger or the hubby better even house smaller.

F woman

just be dad that come back home, let your waife layan your kids 24/7

wait until they feel annoyed been touched by you like a simple pat on the head