Hey fella ktards

This has been bugging me for recent days

Recently noticed my elderly saving to pay caregiver only left about a year. .

The full time caregiver cost about 4.5k/ month

Initially thought elderly dad would recover and become independent. But after some time looks to be plateaued or worse

So here’s the problem . When the saving run out .

I really can’t afford that kind of money . The most I can is around 2k-3k / month . and this is me still having no kids. This will severely limit my financial for future kid . Age keep going up, thinking of having one as soon as possible . But man, its tough.

Even thinking of selling my rented house. / car to downgrade . Need take action by next year before the saving run out.

This thing made me no mood ady, feel kinda depressed, why am i the only one need to shoulder this burden? I can ask help from few of my siblings, but surely their excuse would be, we already have a family on our own.

Damn , i dunno how i want to go through next year.

Guess the earliest thing i can do is to sell off car and the house to free up commitment. I do make around 8-9k/month. But couldn’t afford to quit the job to become full time caregiver .

Gg me. Hopefully not penang bridge stats next year .

Any advice or ramblings appreciated . No need donation or what, just venting. Sure i”ll figure something out, but man my head felt so heavy these days.

bring back your dad back to home and employ your own aunty/uncle who is willing to help jaga.. and paay them 3K...

this is of course only possible if your dad does not need special care that only caregiver/nurse can provide....

One person shoulf not be the only ond you shoulder the parents . Your siblings got give excuse or they really sohai not to have conciousness to at least set aside money for your parents . If they like that i throw them in Penang bridge first. They got money to membiak but nit take care parents.

Also pinoy caregiver thr cheap one damn sohai thosd bitches damn entitled. If just mobility issue better get good indon helper instead of sohai caregiver. Btw u oren or bak kut teh. See if my stereotype correct

This post has been edited by lordgamer3: Dec 16 2025, 10:53 PM

TS have you tried to discuss with your siblings? maybe they can help with fundings? share your burden and family plans, you can't be the only one sacrificing.

Ask your siblings, if cannot spare time, energy and effort, just pass the money over. This is how it works. No need to sugar coat anything. You taking care itself already eating a big part of you especially emotionally so the least these so called siblings can do is provide the money.

berapa sibling all charsiew ka
shd divide equally at least

Don't think too much, ask each sibling to chip in.

Old days, we used to ask other relatives to help, now everyone no longer does that, even among siblings already problematic and selfish.

Think I should mention this.

Do your parents still have assets? If so does it will to you?

This may become the last straw because after you go through all the trouble and at the end your siblings still enjoy the inheritance and worst all of it while denying the help when you needed most.

While I applaud you taking care of your parents, only you here know how they treat you in the past or any favouritism golden child.

This post has been edited by HolyValkyrie: Dec 17 2025, 01:10 AM

Talk to your siblings and parents. Now is not the time to keep quiet.

Since you mention about siblings avoiding it with own family as excuse...pick it up even you don't like.

I saw reply above mention about whether yr parent have asset, ie: house. Sell it off could be a good option.

Desperate time, desperate measure. You have to support yourself anyway.

This post has been edited by Chisinlouz: Dec 17 2025, 01:22 AM

I do have the family house under my name, so yeah . Guess they expecting me since "you get the house, so u pandai2 sindiri jaga" that kind of thing

but even then , the max prolly I can afford now is 2k ++ / month,

definitely couldn't afford up to 4k+ monthly.

Wait, pay 4.5k to send your elderly to nursery? Why not give up your job? Straight save 4.5k... jaga sendiri. If your salary is 5k, after income tax and everything probably less than 4.5k also.

Maybe go out do grab/food delivery for short period of time. Put camera at home.

This post has been edited by andrekua2: Dec 17 2025, 09:49 AM

ask sibling to pay portion of it.
be strong bro.

If got inheritance, why not sell the asset and use it for themselves?

My gf plan after her father gone, will sell the house and use that money for mother to rest in elderly caretaker house etc

Siblings sit down and discuss about sharing the cost.

Today, 4-5 children having difficulty to take care of their parents.

Imagine when we get old, 1 kid to jaga 2 parents. He/she has no one to share share.

Save now!

well, sometimes having a frank, friendly discussion and asking (not demanding) for help from own siblings do work...

asked if they can contribute partial (not equal fully)... like 800 or 1K each, assuming u have 2 siblings... if 3, 500 to 800...
nowadays, 500 to 1K is not that excess a request.

sometime ayam just jelly man, some kolik got it good , merid early had life figured out, so many kids ady

damn ayam just here struggling thinking about the future

just ask siblings 1st, collect a long term payments. dont care rm 300 / 500 /1000.

divide equally if can.

if collections r poor, den sell assets to finance this.

gud luck!

discuss with sibling bro. you should not handle this alone.
dont jelly man, rezeki is masing2.

Well, from what i see, time to sell house.

The world is a very material place.


IMHO You'll need to suck it up, as whether you admit it or not, it seems that you're the major financial benefactor (house) out of this ordeal.

This post has been edited by BelaCHAN: Dec 17 2025, 11:08 AM