men and women have responsibilities. Often times people only show the good facade to the public. And once they suppress their desires it will transmit to other part of source. Having affairs is just one of the ways to release the tension built up overtime. Human psyche cannot withstand it has to be released

People often loses control to the normal life stress. Therefore in order to have control back, they want to seek fulfilment outside of leisure activity such as doing drugs, unwillingly knowing this kind of activity will eventually bring oneself to sorrow and emptiness.

But emptiness itself, doesn't mean it's necessarily bad. It's just one way of living. And on the other extreme, some people think being overly positive about life is the only way to live a good life. This kind of people only live though their lens and unforgiving other people experiences. It's also an unconscious way of exerting own shadow the other people