TLDW:

- Poligami cuba kalau pompuan boleh, laki takkan agree
- takda duit jangan kahwin + anak ramai, nanti cerai
- jangan rush kahwin
- kewajipan hantaran - adat yg perlu dihapuskan
- majlis yg mahal. no use.
- dont be people pleaser, dont buy things to make others happy
- dont rush buy house/car. cash is king



This post has been edited by Porkycorgi5588: Sep 5 2025, 11:55 PM

Jgn rush kawin 👍

1st 3 points debatable.

last 2 agree.

anak rezkey membiak macam kuceng

1st point disagree, biologically, women are hypergamy means they only attracted to top-quality men, and these superior men are only 10% in the market.

2nd point disagree, only if u live in the city prolly..

3rd disagree, if you found a good suitor, go for it, what makes you think you will find a better suitor in the future

4th what hantaran? dowry? its compulsory. if she meant gift, then its optional but the wimen always in the position to demand.

5th,6th agree

7th subjective. sometimes ppl buy house as long term invesment, but looking at property market nowadays..

Idk, seems like Malay feminist talking point

This post has been edited by Khamzat Chimaev: Sep 6 2025, 01:12 AM

who TF find a good suitor at 18-20 years old?

what makes you think you will find a better suitor in the future = it's called experience

u see malay marriage culture is like 18-20 years old, u better married already.....the 2 like only dated twice but already talking about getting married
not only you're still immature, financially unstable and inexperienced in life, you 2 haven't dated enough to even get to know each other that well
that's why the divorce rate is that high and many malay girls as young as 18 already calling themselves janda

Apa guna majority my B40, yang tambah tu B40 generasi baru berlagak macam T20.

Meanwhile, Ayam 2 house also no one want. Still considered too poor.

This post has been edited by samftrmd: Sep 6 2025, 07:45 AM

- Poligami cuba kalau pompuan boleh, laki takkan agree

Base polygamy (man + multiple wives) first of all is fundamental Islamic creed, before being accepted as a Malay tradition or culture.

sorry I didnt know the context coz i just read the dude summary. isit finding for good suitor or aquiring resource ie money/house before marraige?
in the society we live today, i agree resources is a must for men to settle down..
but if ur looking for experiences by hooking with diff woman before marraige, that just redpill andrew tate's talking point which I'm against. I can give few reasons why it's bad.

DW bekos sunset oren

1. I disagree unless you can seriously afford it.
2. not sure about this, you can struggle early in life and reap benefits later on. anak ramai, you have to split resources among your kids.
3. subject to debate, some want to have kids early so that in their 40s, 50s can chillax.
4. it's just a show of money, get rid of it. good luck to traditionalist families.
5. agree
6. agree
7. agree

Piap je la

-Nearlee

ketam pun cakap.
ketam takda disagree because Allah cakap boleh.

but based on Quran, you are "saving" the woman, not satisfying your lust.

kahwin Janda perang, kahwin OKU, kahwin orang tua
but kalau kahwin pok pok cui 20yo, dont lie and say you are saving the women la.

Why must dowry be compulsory?

If you're against is why the divorce rate is so god damn high
It's not about hooking different women...it's that you should date longer to know each other longer
Especially for girls nowadays

Now you know why girls today rather stayed single than married the wrong dude...because marrying the wrong dude is worse than marrying late

That is why a lot of girls in their late 30s today are either janda or rather stay single...all due to past traumatized relationships