Human nature is like this. If you are there everyday, people will bising. Overtime it add up and they feel you as nuisance. Once take on responsibility for a while people also take for granted that things will be handle. But if only see them once in a while their last memory is of those sibling/relative is based on past memory when they were kids who could do no wrong. Like their thinking of them is frozen in past state while their thinking of you changing everyday from good to annoyance.

But yes, those who are not there day to day visit once in a while then criticize this and that like they know best are the worst. Tokok all high and mighty, but fail to realize they just maybe visit few times a year like CNY. The smart ones knows you handle everything and will keep quiet at least until time come to fight inheritance. Then they come very out strong.