If u visit hospital ward for old ppl ..u will shit brix
Getting old plus sick is scary

Nursing home is the way to go when  your life style suffers. There is no other way.

My father had a minor fall at first, nothing too serious but he needed walker to walk after that. A week later, he had a more serious fall, I asked him and mom to come to my house immediately so me, wife and siblings could help look after him.

After about 10 days at my home, he seem more improved, better focus, better health and is able to stand a bit with the help of the walker. After 10 days, he seem shivering and feel cold even when the fan is off. 11th day he seem like have a seizure and have difficulty breathing. We call the ambulance and admit him to hospital. To our shock we were told he had lung infection.

First day in hospital he seem fine, but not able to talk, second day he was sleeping whole day. Third day, he seem recovered, able to move his hand and feet. Fourth day, I was shocked that he passed away.

I am still trying to come to terms, although I do get signs and dreams from God/him that he was okay. Just the speed of his decline I could not come to terms with.

Unlike the above stories of old folks lasting months/even years. My father was gone within a matter of weeks.

Your relatives and other siblings:
1. why you so cold blood? Not a filial child la u.
2. Those who suggest have to pay for the bill. I’m not part of it. We have our family too so I’m not rotating with you as well.
3. (Touch wood if anything happen at the nursing home) see la ? Suggest nursing home summo la? Told you this would happen. It’s all your fault.

Well frankly I don’t. Just sharing what I have seen myself when this things happen on other people. Not everyone can handle it.

And the worse part? The sick old parent will still side with the these people instead of the child that taking care of them. What would you do den?

can you give me some examples...

so sorry to hear... very tough hearing those comments.

my mother would call my relatives and accuses me of using her to cook meals and wash clothes at home (since she has retired and I thought why not have something to do everyday) (while i busy working, pay for her bills, and groceries, and even clear off her house loan). none of her other 3 children want any contacts with her, nor give her a cent (when i cleared off her house loan, normal parents would be so happy and thankful but she gave no appreciation, she accused me of not telling her, and doesn't know why I did so - so she doesn't need to be burden with house loan at old age)... is that sign of Alzheimer or narcissistic calling me a black sheep?

thank you for doing your part. hope the burden eases a bit.

Already married means got help…try me destinied foreveralone and confirm need hire caretaker but stuck with malaysian salary.