Background

I recently tendered my resignation and am currently serving my notice period, with my last working day being 1st September. I made this decision due to ongoing uncertainty and instability within the organization and have since accepted an external opportunity.
Throughout my time here, my performance has been consistently strong and my KPIs have been rated positively, and I was even rated above average in one cycle. There have been no major issues during my tenure.

The Issue

A few days ago, I had an uncomfortable experience that caught me off guard. After completing a task, my line manager unexpectedly created a Microsoft Teams group chat including myself and the new joiner who’s taking over my responsibilities. She then sent a series of messages in that group, questioning how certain figures were derived, asking for supporting documents, and demanding explanations.
This approach felt abrupt and out of the ordinary and it’s not how such matters were handled previously. I couldn’t help but feel disrespected and somewhat publicly shamed in front of the new joiner. The incident has been bothering me since.

What I’m Considering

I’ve been thinking about having a one-on-one conversation with my manager to express how her actions made me feel disrespected and unfairly put on the spot. At the same time, a few friends have advised me to let it go, given that I’m leaving soon and there’s no point creating further tension.
I’m conflicted. While part of me wants closure and to stand up for myself, another part wonders if it’s best to just move forward without stirring the waters. The incident did leave me disturbed, and I’m still deciding what the best course of action would be.

Any advise? Suck it up or address it professionally?

Don't burn the bridge if it doesn't bring you any tangible benefits.

mc je

Your manager wants to show who's the boss so let her be, what do you gain out of the conversation with her? You expect her to apologize and retract everything she typed in the group chat?

Err I think she is trying to ensure to have all the relevant documents, SOP in place with proper handover to the next staff bah. So if the new staff cannot do the work properly since being new, she can step in to help lor. Hence, all the hows whys lot, I don't see the benefit of her trying to sabo u lor, we all know normally ppl who has tendered will give NF and the line mgr can't do shit to u bah.

Not meh?

you should not confront her... just leave her be.

She wants to assert authority, just let her do whatever she fancies.

My manager is super rude behind me, sending threatening emails to me, but 1-on-1 he’s pretty mild mannered. I just ignore whatever he type that is rude, outright ignoring his emails, but will do his bidding as long as he spoke to me personally.
Cari makan lah. Just to give you an idea how to handle the situation. As long as you’re still needed, they will not burn the bridge, so neither should you. No benefit to being right or to serve your ego.

How is it that you are shamed publicly? She might be just making sure handover happens in a public manner.

i think is just handover meeting. just tell her what she needs you will compile it and hand it to the new joiner will do. whether it is in complete or not is up to you. but do it nicely la, otherwise you will receive call even after you leave

let her be, you're leaving anyway

I have been such situation almost on daily basis. Clients create groups, shoot questions and demand answer. I am obliged to provide answers, since they are customers and I am the supplier. The group is there to keep everyone involve in the loop.

I believe the situation is similar. You are getting paid to provide answer because its your job. Just answer accordingly, don't have to take it personally.

sounds pretty normal transition group, only thing is lack of pre-notified from manager

she just wanted to have a place where the new joiner can find info after you left

Sounds like you are someone who are easily triggered. Or someone who not used to work in harsh and dynamic environments.

Anyhow, the way i see it is, the manager is not questioning you. More like she know nothing about those jobs, hence asking many question to learn how to do it.

The presence of new joiner serves as 2 purposes:
- as an excuse that she is getting the new joiner to learn in case u ask her why she did that
- and a lesson for the new joiner so in future he/she can do such jobs without troubleing her.

Main point: your manager know nuts

the way i look at it is, ur manager doesnt understand how u derive the numbers and is now only questioning it coz they need to know as well in case the new joiner ask them how is this number derived?

that is the impression i get from ur wall of text. nothing malicious

i joined my company and they didnt tell me shit how the numbers are gotten except that it was based on a formula that the very first analyst did and my manager didnt know how it was calculated as well and i was mega blur for the first couple months.

i had to reverse engineer it to figure it out but honestly it takes too much time and it created more questions in the process. i would love it if the previous analyst could explain it to me so i understand it

even if the new joiner has 20+ years of experience, u cant expect them to look at ur numbers and go AHA, got it, within like 1 week or wtv it is right?

honestly i feel like everytime i start at a new place, the person i am replacing is a fking bitch about leaving and will always hide as many skeleton in the closet as possible and i am the one that will have to eat the shit after they left

they will no explain shit on how they arrive at this calculation and they wont explain why they did this routine thing this way, and often time they will just use excuse like 'the previous analyst did it this way so i just repeat the same thing'

bro, u definitely dont understand it if all u do is copy + paste the steps the previous analyst did, this is how knowledge is lost over time.

the fact that ur complaining about this kind of thing makes me think ur kinda problematic and ur skeleton is about to fall out of the closet so ur feeling agitated by it

btw alot of skeleton did fall out after the person i replaced left and i ate alot of blame for not knowing this and that exist and for not bringing it to my manager's attention.

what a dumb joke, i didnt know this and that process exist so how can i bring it up to my manager about it lmao. it was such a shit company to work in all thanks to the previous analyst that does shit like what ur trying to do lol

For your own benefit, maybe don't confront.

You might accidentally upset your manager and risk your manager sabotage you later in the future in your new job.

The only benefit you get meeting her is getting your anger out. Or emotionally express yourself. But it might not make your situation better.

For your own benefit, just treat that bastard as dumbass and keep your future job safe for your own good. If you want, maybe after you leave you viral him/her lor if you want to do bad or evil one.

This is for the learning and education of the new joiner taking over la. Your boss tak tau buat, new joiner taking tau buat. At least your boss tau what to ask then new joiner learn and do.

You are leaving why bothered ....

My suggestion:

Go ask for clarification with your manager (on 1 to 1 talk) on what she meant in the chat group, IF that really bothers you.
Just pretend you don't understand the context.

My American female manager also tends to make me "loose face" in front of new comer/staff, by asking me a lot of basic questions/or like I'm the culprit of the issue (when I'm not).
I just interpret it as that's her way of "teaching" the new staff, because I'll have to explain to everyone (especially in front of the new staff) how things works.

I did told her that I'm not comfortable to be put "on the spot" (just a phrase that represented that the spotlight was shining onto me like on the stage) in front of the new staff.
She agreed that she did put me "on the spot" and stopped doing that after that.

I can also felt that she also felt the new staff was slacking on their learning effort, that's why she did it that way to "force" them to learn (like they got no excuse not to learn, since explanation was given in public now, so don't go and tell her that they're still don't know, etc).

This post has been edited by AEROZ: Aug 2 2025, 11:10 PM

You are leaving very soon..
Why bother ??

Does not worth your time & effort anymore