I decide to try my best to get a partner, so I asked to take a picture with her during an event, she is someone I chatted with for 8 months and we already know eachother for 3 years. She seems excited at first asking for the picture as soon as she arrives home at 1230am, edit it and ask me to post said picture while also tagging her. I decide to let things cool down so we both have time to think before asking her to a briskwalk the day after tomorrow.

That day comes, she agree and asked me to choose the time and I mostly follow her, sometimes I give suggestions and she agrees. We talked, about her course, my studies, our hometown, a girl she hate, about her lecturer, some small talks. I do have fun and she seems to have fun to, we walk for 8km and then decide to go back to our dorm (we live in one college different block) I say I want to go to the cafe (close to her block) and she said she wanted to get some water. She sits and have a drink eventough she could just go straight home.

Then the next day I reply to her status but she just ghosted me.I post a status, I realised she didn't seen it and my friend say she might have deleted my number. I give like two days of cooling down and then I confess, she rejected me saying she is currently getting to know someone else that her parents already knows. I reply,"okay we can just be friends" but she just double tick it.

I reply to her story on IG she didn't reply and next morning she blocked me. I try asking why on WhatsApp and she reply with "don't wanna be friends" and blocked me there to.

She did post something about appreciating what is Infront of you, and her feelings of appreciating her father loves.



Tldr; I decide to go out with my friends, we briskwalk, seems to have good time, she ghosted me, I confess, she blocked me.

Did I do something wrong? should I continue to pursue her? There are people who got rejected but they are married now and if I still have a chance I wish to just try to reconcile with her. We are one faculty and one clubs and do have a big event this September so we will meet eachother again and we also have common friends.

I do have some kind of reputation, I thought she might see me as a red flag.

This post has been edited by Kucingku08: Jul 24 2025, 11:55 AM

TS, your parents send you to study or to get girlfriend?

Get your priorities right. While some relationships in uni/college ends in lifelong marriage, it's more likely that you'll grow up and find other partners once you graduate.

She already made it clear with you. Which sentence u do not understand?
Don't bother her anymore. The more u disturb her now the more she's going to distant herself.

If one day she befriend u again, have balls to walk away the way she ghosted and unfriend u.

U need to show her u have other options or else u are going to be a loser in her eyes forever.

Focus on your studies instead. Good luck

at first I thought like that too, after uni people will part ways. there is no need for a relationship now. But I feel it will be a good learning experience.

I almost graduated and just wanna try my luck I'm attracted to her personality and afraid I will not meet someone like her again.

After this I will probably just let people come rather than chasing.

obviously you been cancelled. move on.

When you say something like that, I can see you are still immature in affairs of the heart.

Of course you will have lots of opportunities to meet another woman like her next time. Never say never.

I guess you're right, I never take relationships in uni as a serious things too many variables right now and our preference might change and most of the time I prefer to just stay as close friends and any feelings I have romantically is impulsive.

Bro, please study hard!

Always put yourself first.

When you on the top with money, girl look for you!

Life = Choice

Move on....
Immature girl is with fickle minded..... U will get crazy trying to sense logic with fickle minded

you are just too young, too immature to understand, too naive, too timid, too much thinking
move on and one day, i hope you will get the wisdom for girls.

also she is a bitch for ghosting you

chat with for 8 months and known her for 3 years... friendzone already and don't even realize.

She ghost you and you confess ... lol.
Naive.

Mind elaborating what kind of reputation?

Regardless, ghosting i.e. non-reply, is a reply in itself. You're young so plenty of encounters in the future as long as you don't shut yourself in.

how many times need to say again

do NOT confess

read this first
https://forum.lowyat.net/topic/1111256

Im wondering where the "I give my all" part in TS story?

Man, she already make it clear.

It's okay, you're young. The first few rejections will sting. It's a part of growing up.

Also, in university, focus on study first please.

PS: Another thing, as a guy, never confess. Just never. You live and you learn, is okay. Most guys here were just like you once upon a time.

This post has been edited by contestchris: Aug 6 2025, 06:22 PM