Wife stay with kids at parents house. I was playing badminton. The water pump broke, flooded the other room. She called me, but I didn't answer. After 30+ mins I only checked phone, saw the video sent. Then saw the voice messages by my kids saying they are going to the condo to stay. So I msg back and replied that I am leaving now, but go back house first to check on situation and take some things.

Called my brother, asked about the condition of the room. Say will arrange ppl come fix tomorrow. Then drove back to home, see condition and then take things, go to condo. Kena confronted by wife asking why you didn't call her back. I told her that dont want to disturb her settle the kids first to sleep, then when back condo only discussed what happen.

What she said next - "you don't concern about us all is it? Why don't call back? You make me very angry now." Kena tembak kau-kau because of not calling her back, hence not concern at all.

Am I the arsehole here?

POV problem.

On your wife side, yes.
On your side, no but why u msg only & didn't call? (Next time remember to msg & call)

depend on wife drill

you did replied tho, so whats the issue on not calling back? you already acknowledge the problem she presented


if you ask me, these kind of logical thinking sometimes do not apply to people in distress. so dont fret too much about it

woman is like that, they need to be comforted with an actual call

it's all about emotion

yes. women are crazy.
your mistake is marrying one.

Happy wife happy life.

Inb4 dirvoce jer la.

wife phftttttttttttttttttttt

This post has been edited by poco loco: May 22 2025, 04:07 AM

Men's POV:
Just a water pump issue, small issue.
Room flooded, not house folded, small issue.
Try to settle things, chill.

Women's POV:
My husband care more of badminton than answering my call.
My husband could be with another woman instrad of badminton.
My husband always plays badminton instead of spending time with family.

The issue here is not calling her back or not.
She is making a scene cos badminton is the issue.

Really.

You message jer, did she reply back or not?

Badminton is the issue la

Say no care about kids, basically it means why u no come take care kids

Ur wife and kids stay at your parents house, so what is the issue if your own house water pump broke? Not tsunami coming right?

Besides water pump je pun,

Sorry but you marry your wife so that your children can happily ever after. Just like China need to marry USA so that the rest of the world can happily ever after. Now control your woman.

Noob arsehole

Like that wan la. They have an expected set of steps and if you do not follow each of them, they'll take it that you don't love them/don't give a damn about them anymore.

This post has been edited by khelben: May 22 2025, 05:55 AM

next time video call terus. sudah marry how long? Ini pon mau ajar ka?

Woman live by emotion not logic

That’s why they always right

Sooo true ... just layan je laa .
Some time reply ws too short also kena . 😅

Yes

Yes you should have called first the moment you saw the miscall.
Nothing wrong with the plan, at least keep her informed

Paip bicir until room flooded very serious lor. U didnt even call.

She is right u dont care about her at all. Dont give excuses la. Imagine la if during dating period. U will call her to check in or not.

Is TS one of those noob gen alpha cannot handle a phone call?

Got slightly more serious issue call je. Jangan text dah.

I normally put my phone on silent and always forgot to off the silent

lucky I got the samsung watch, any call coming in I would know who's calling, but battery drains like fck because on bluetooth all day

You never called to ask how are they doing? Just reply msg? No wonder she mad.

understand where you come from.. but based on your past dating experience and now even having a wife.. by right you should have the experience of managing them edi haha

they need emotion support not based on your logic

The badminton court there got any single ladies playing?

you ask this question here, you will get 100 answers.

lately, this kind of attitude from wifey, i telinga kanan masuk, telinga kiri keluar. cause wimmenz tend to be unreasonable. malas drag the issue.

you AITA or not? i dont think it is necessary to find out at all.

U can call me a boomer but everytime there's an issue that happened, I will call that person directly instead of texting.

Call is easier, u can clearly understand on what happened etc.

For me, if something that happened and u just texting, that's just rude. Except in workplace. It's a different situation.

For family members, I will call first than texting.

Zaman sekarang all telco plans offer unlimited call, nak kedekut sangat nak call kenapa.

This post has been edited by xpole: May 22 2025, 09:35 AM

the drama of this story is, the water pump broke sj. off the main then should be ok right? apa emergency that dont concern?

go pucheong relak la

wimminz where got logic one.

emotion precedent everything.

just let her cool of la. any shit you say now wont be accepted with proper reason no

Fark reading the reply here no wonder so many foreveralone

Ts say playing badminton but he actually playing pickle ball with short skirts awek / amoi so no time to answer call

Emotion = women logic

Once you've married, whatever activities must involve the entire family not just yourself.

I believe she's probably looking for backup plan now. So, if next time u messed up, she will dump u for good.

Not asshole but just unfortunate oversight. Wife was probably panicking and definitely felt left out when you didn't call.

Yes. When got calls, reply first. Messages can wait later.
These days will only make calls when something urgent / important / things need to do ASAP.

If msgs, everything can wait.

This post has been edited by submergedx: May 22 2025, 11:42 AM

i got a colleague like this. Call x jawab. Message x jwb.
then next day only jwb.

Now he is kena pulau by everyone.

Next time bro, call back. dont text . text is for idiot

But there is one thing difference with men and women when handling things.

When paip bocor, women will usually "ahhhhhhhhhh waterrrrrrrrr ahhhhhhhhhhhhh waterrrrrrrrrrr howwwwwwwwwww"

Men will usually "stay calm, rush to main valve tutup first"

TS really kns

Women is like that la. Married so long also don't know. Even dating time pattern should already come out.

TS should make it a habit to check phone when resting after badminton match. Not 2 hours later. Later if kids or waifu really need go emergency room how?

Don't argue, don't waste your energy. Let it cool down and bring back this topic to discuss when time is appropriate such as holiday or piak piak

and sad to say, sugarcoat your answer in replying to her, half-truth is good enough but don't lie.

beritahu isteri,
mengapa tidak mengadu kepada ibu bapanya,
beritahu isteri,
awak sangat bertuah kerana saya mempunyai kondo,

you married so long and you ask k for advice?

this is something that you should figure out with her.

Salah lelaki

^^^ both these replies. Wifey not happy you playing badminton.

upah...


This amoi single!

Wife cari pasal.

Burst pipe room flooded only ma, end of the world ah ?

Cannot settle need to wear grass to condo ? Mug oi.

U reply message dy right, need to call ? need vid call not ? conference together with a plumber too ?

no, just deal with it..... give your wife some space, call her back once clam down, shit / life happen, at least your kid safe

maybe try to show some remember especially her birthday, your special moment etc etc, meanwhile check the water pump issue so that dont happen again next time

damn i can already imagine the noise between your wife

hang in there

TS u no celebrate 520 ke? They will peram few weeks to shoot u

Me time > All

Sounds to me she has underlying frustration with you op.

She probably hated that you're out playing badminton, so the scale is already skewed before the pipe even broke.

tell her shaddap and make u sammich

Yup u asslubang. We hope divorce coming u kam /k again this time ur waifu lubang kena gali by dark skin foreigner.

Satisfy answer? Now kelos tered.

True storeyz