- Charity starts at home
- God help those who help themselves

rather than diving too deeply into concepts like non-differentiation and the six sense doors, and also have to remind myself to be the player, not the character... actually in Buddhist thought, there’s an even deeper insight known as selflessness.

your thoughts remind me of a verse by the Buddhist master Shenxiu:

身是菩提树，心如明镜台。
时时勤拂拭，勿使惹尘埃。

Translation:
The body is a Bodhi tree,
The mind is like a bright mirror stand.
Diligently polish it at all times,
So that no dust can settle.

in contrast, Huineng, the founder of Zen Buddhism and now recognized as the Sixth Patriarch, offered this response:

菩提本无树，明镜亦非台。
本来无一物，何处惹尘埃。

Translation:
Bodhi has no tree by nature,
The bright mirror is not a stand.
Originally, there is not a single thing —
Where can dust possibly land?

not claiming to be on either of their levels, nowhere near it in fact. just sharing a bit of reflection, in case it's something you'd like to explore too...

Don't try, won't fail.

What does this have to do with open relationships? I do not find any correlation at all.

While I cannot control how you shape your way of thinking, I can only share my own perspective. If that way of thinking does not align with my principles in life, I do not have to adopt it. There is no need to impose it on others either as well.

If a person’s decision is good, the outcome will also be good. That decision may then serve as a teacher or role model to others. On the other hand, if the decision is bad, the outcome will be negative. That decision itself becomes a lesson for others to avoid.

As for your original question, since I have no personal interest in the matter, I will not respond directly. However, that does not stop me from making my own observations. I hope you are satisfied with this kind of reply.

Ts life all about women women and women

'u must be young and stupid 1st before being old n wise'
'u can only make the same mistake once'
'its not the end of the world'

Here’s some raw, unfiltered life advice for you at 34, earning RM20K/month:

### **1. Money Isn’t Everything—But It’s a Damn Good Tool**
You’re in the top 5% of earners in Malaysia. That’s power. But wealth isn’t just income—it’s **what you keep, grow, and use wisely**.
- **Invest aggressively** (stocks, real estate, side businesses).
- **Avoid lifestyle inflation**—just because you *can* buy a BMW doesn’t mean you *should*.
- **Build a FU fund**—enough cash to walk away from toxic jobs/people.

### **2. Health is Your Real Wealth**
No amount of money fixes a broken body at 50.
- **Exercise like your life depends on it** (it does).
- **Eat clean**—metabolism slows down hard after 35.
- **Sleep like a king**—chronic stress & poor sleep = early death.

### **3. Time > Money**
You’re not getting younger. **Spend time on things that matter**:
- **Family & real friends**—people fade, memories don’t.
- **Skills & experiences**—travel, learn, explore. Money is useless if you’re a boring rich guy.
- **Legacy**—what will people remember you for?

### **4. Protect Your Mental Peace**
- **Cut toxic people**—even family. Life’s too short.
- **Say NO often**—your time is valuable.
- **Avoid gossip & negativity**—it’s mental poison.

### **5. Don’t Get Comfortable—Get Dangerous**
RM20K/month is great, but **complacency kills ambition**.
- **Keep leveling up**—side hustles, promotions, investments.
- **Take calculated risks**—business, career moves, relocations.
- **Stay hungry**—the moment you think you’ve "made it," you lose.

### **6. Relationships Make or Break You**
- **Marry wisely**—a bad partner can ruin your life.
- **Network with winners**—you’re the average of the 5 people you spend time with.
- **Be generous but not stupid**—help others, but don’t be a doormat.

### **7. Prepare for the Inevitable**
- **Get insurance** (medical, critical illness).
- **Write a will**—death doesn’t check your age.
- **Plan for old age**—no one wants to be a broke 70-year-old.

### **8. Enjoy the Damn Ride**
You’re in your prime. **Work hard, play hard**.
- **

Yolo

I was a silly young brat when my mom said this to me when I was frustrated as I got stuck doing something,
"Haiyaaa 人是生动的 (EN: human is lively)" then told me a different way to accomplish something simple. I can't remember what exactly, but it was just something trivial at home.

Hard to say what's THE best advice in my life but I just find it funny I'm remembering something I bet my mom doesn't, cuz she just said in the spur of the moment when her kid was bugging her with nonsense. Somehow it got stuck with me until now as I often try to think of creative ways to be lazily efficient in life, including work.

Laugh at the poor, not the whores.
Regardless of profession, it's to continue living.
But staying poor irrespective of the situation is called fked.

When I was still a fukken Malaysian, I had this understanding of Maruah, cannot get racisted, cannot give face to mistreatment, cannot lose to inequality, cannot this and that, all sorts of foolishness on the so-called life. Verdict? I'm simply a bifoti in everyone's eyes. Amoi lousy stay shit apartment also sell her Racun Bunga Cheebye more expensive than my celery. Drive Vios also kena diu, drive Cibic also kena diu. Drive Mercedes also still kena diu.

Keluar liao, get educated by waifu and CCP side, paham paham, now, DGAF to everything liao.

Im at the stage where everyday I laughed at sorhais, complain from start until finish, but when bayar time sweat tatau mana cari uang and jalan. Meanwhile I simply flick a finger, I no settle bill also the bawse takper next time.

### **5. Don’t Get Comfortable—Get Dangerous** 
RM20K/month is great, but **complacency kills ambition**. 
- **Keep leveling up**—side hustles, promotions, investments. 
- **Take calculated risks**—business, career moves, relocations. 
- **Stay hungry**—the moment you think you’ve "made it," you lose. 

Since sudah 20k, I believe this part is steady but I would say take the initiative, not dangerous. Getting overambitious is prone to be what all 20k earners does. My timing between me having two studios in London and thinking about getting my 2nd and 3rd Chinese Takeaway almost ended with Kantoi burn everything. Luckily, background Cable kuat, didn't get fked by bullies. (Just trivial matter, its calculated risk, but calculated still a condemning risk)

Today, with ngam ngam 50 studios running, who's face I need to see when it comes to luxuries BNBs around Londonistan lel? Except sei pokai Keir Starmer la.

This post has been edited by AfraidIGotBan: Apr 30 2025, 06:57 AM

Blame no one but yourself

Pancut aja dalam when you are ready

That’s the best advice in my life

It will pass….

'if you willingly lent money to friends,can straightaway expect can't get back'
That's my life advice

Live in the presence, focus on the now. Now is the moment of truth, don't dwell in the past or worried about the future.

probably worst decision to get someone accidental pregnant and you feel shameful to not asking the girl abort her kid

I had been ready since I was 18

And at 36 finally pancut dalam more than 10 pussy, finally got a seed that germinate

pussy is the primary motivating force around human history
It basically fulfills all sixth senses

eye (see hot girl)
ear (hear a girl moan)
nose (smell good fragrant body)
mouth (taste good pussy)
body (doggy a tight pussy)
will (the feeling of ownership and domination of a live body)

the rest of human doings are just for wayang only

macam betul juga eh