If given the choice, would you turn back the clock and not have kids or married at all ?

Tak apa. Nasi become bubur liao.

Maybe can think of plan b lah. Sounds so sad wei sammore 4 ekor.

How did yr first love not meet yr expectations?

It is only 1/2 of a life cycle. You still have 1/2 of the life cycle to experience.

To make changes, we lead by example. When we change, the other half will follow. You have to put it this way: if the wife is your own children, can you give up & abandon them? Can you just say they are hopeless & won't change?

Leading people close to you to change sometimes cannot use a direct approach or talk only if it takes more than that. Don't give up.

Water under normal atmospheric conditions will behave as you mentioned. However, there is a way to transform the characteristics of water. Remove sufficient enthalpy/energy from the water, and the fluid will become a solid state. Add sufficient enthalpy/energy to the water, and the fluid will become a vapor phase. This is just an example of how you can change the phase of water. Hence, it can be changed. That is the analogy from the science knowledge.

Another analogy from Liao Fan’s Four Lessons: this man changed his fate/destiny. If a fate/destiny can be changed, changing the individual way of thinking or consciousness is possible. Both the husband and wife must have their consciousness level that must be raised for you to breach this obstacle. You need to mix with the correct group of people . Your wife must have correct exposure, and you must have correct exposure also.

Xun Zi of Confucinism once said, “The nature of man is evil; his goodness is only acquired through training."

If we were to interpret the above quote in terms of consciousness level, human consciousness always begins at the lowest level. It is through the cultivation and guidance that the consciousness level can be raised eventually.