if started here and short term ldr ok, if gonna be long, dun think gonna work out right

Was that just a one-time occurrence? If so, then I’d brush it off and c’est la vie.

If it does happen often, then it could be he’s not that considerate of your feelings. You can have a heart-to-heart chat with him then.

ldr is risky AND hes not from malaysia, good luck, even different states have to think twice...

First advice
Chill. Men don’t like woman up their a55es.

Second advice
Be more confident of yourself and don’t doubt the man. If you doubt the man and he makes you insecure just end the relationship. Your insecurity is a YOU problem not a him problem.

If he chooses to cheat on you there’s nothing you can do and it’s not your fault. Note the keyword he choose to cheat. You install a chastity belt with biometric lock also useless if he wants to cheat, he will figure a way out.

The silly argument men enjoy is “my fav choc cake sold out, pout, told you come earlier why you so slow, now no more” then give him chance to cheer you up and make it up to you. These “argument” is just banter. And it’s not a pain to the guy. If you’re a constant pain, he’ll just get rid of you.

Means he love you so much, give him some space so that he feel more comfortable and relax 😍❤️🔥

… did he just indirectly imply that he didn’t give a damn on your attitude?

Just kidding. I was in your same situation before, but that is before our relationship confirmed. After confirmed then everything went well so far for over a decade now.

How long has the relationship lasted? If already few years, congrats you found someone who willing to give and take. If only few months, better change something before too late.

He is right for you doesn’t mean the other way round 🤣

Just kidding again. But on a serious note, since it is ldr so he might still feel some freedom. Imagine if stay together and you want to control him over into 25th hour of the day, not many can take it especially the type that enjoy hang out with people well over midnight.

Good luck for both of you guys, just be positive 🤞😎👍🔥

Yeap. This what i argue with her most until turn into big argument. Already sleep together die die still want met said goodnight, keep want me to message. Clingy as hell. Now keep verbal until now i dont care and she also less care anymore. she want merajuk she punya pasal. Enough of entertain her clingy constant want in contact attitude

Argument is common. To maintain/improve a relationship, you need to learn how to argue.

Key points:
- negative emotions will come and you can't control that. But you CAN control it better by 1) understand why you're feeling so, then 2) be conscious of your own emotions and take seconds to think/breathe before you let your raw emotions out. Lastly, 3) communicate to the other about (1) so that that other person understands you or better yet, do something to prevent similar situations in the future.

- it's ok to take time out, but always attach a time limit to it + remind each other you still care, you just need to cool down and think. Without deadline, cold war will continue even for years (true story I heard from 988 Chan Fong 😅)

- argument is often caused by mismatch of something -- find out what and see if either/both sides can agree to something. Sometimes you agree to disagree and that's okay as long as both now understand each other's view. You will learn to compromise in a way or another as long as you still care.

"The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials".  - Confucius (Eastern Philosopher, 500 BCE) 

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Jobs tells the story of how a widowed man showed him a rock tumbler when he was a little kid. He uses the rock tumbler and process of turning common stones into beautifully polished rocks as a metaphor for a team working really hard on something they're passionate about: "It's through the team—through a group of incredibly talented people—bumping up against each other, having arguments, having fights sometimes, making some noise, and working together... they polish each other and polish the ideas. And what comes out are these really beautiful stones."  

The key to building a great product is a great team, not a great idea.

- Steve Jobs (Modern Age Polymaths)

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Using the above quotes, see the analogy of the gems ≈ relationship ≈ human. Human relationships are universal :-

Ruler to subject,

Husband to wife,

Parent to children,

Sibling to sibling,

Friend to friend,

Employer to employee,

Employee to employee,

Manager to subordinate, etc.

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You only need to understand 1 dynamic; the similar principle of understanding can be applicable to the other human relationship. 

A successful romantic relationship "It's through the team of 2—through a carefully paired pair of candidates bumping up against each other, having arguments, having fights sometimes, making some noise, and working together... they polish each other and polish the relationship. And what comes out are these really beautiful, ever-evolving relationships that can withstand the erosion of time."  (modified version)

*It is not the candidate who gives up halfway or the candidate who refuses to change/adapt.

Still new
Honeymoon period

I let you in a secret. Once the newness/novelty of a woman wears off a man, e.g. she’s new & exciting, pretty, got big melons etc.

His patience will go down and the metric will be how useful or painful you are. Once the pain passes the threshold (every guy has diff threshold) he will start to stray. That’s why even the bf of prettiest woman also can get bored of her shit once novelty is gone.

The saying goes.. behind every successful man there is a woman. What that sentence left out - there is a right woman. If the woman day day drama he where got time to succeed. Everyday layan her bs no energy already.

He’s 47? LDR right? Show up one day at his workplace after work when you confirmed he is at work.

To surprise him. Don’t let him know you’re coming. Maybe do it on his birthday.

You can thank me, or you can thank me. Either way you win.

me - want to go where eat ?

she - anywhere also can ...

me - ok, lets go to that kopitiam under the tree

she - *faceblack black* cat 3 typhoon silent treatment

I'd consider that as an ineffective argument then... His apologies aren't resolving anything, so you continue to repeat the cycle of getting angry and looking for a fight, while he reacts by avoiding addressing the issue altogether.

Right now it's mainly your own insecurities so perhaps there isn't  anything for him to do, but imagine in the future you get upset about things like not putting away dirty socks, not helping with chores... if every single thing you're unhappy about him is met with an apology without resolution, you will go crazy one day.

Anyway, your insecurities will not go away on its own and you'll continue to self blame for getting upset all the time, suffocating him in the process. You both need to do something differently to reduce your insecurities.

Sis,

1. Spend on you most of time please!?

2. Give you pocket money please!? min 4 figures.

3. Set up spy app on his phone but you will regret.

4. A person take care you n your heart, normally will do what you ask.

5. My point of view, you are just another dumb girl.

6. Quantity Scumbag = Quantity Dumb Boy / Girl.

My point of view only.

What was in your mind when your other half didn't reply your calls/texts?

You in cloud 9. And you have too much time in your hands. Keep busy with work yourself so that it doesn’t drive you nuts.

Remember, a couple is 2 mature, emotionally healthy and stable individuals together. If you have too much time on your hands and overthink things it’ll creep up on you. Just be yourself.