Already stopped talking to girls. Kinda left a scar already. Because I'm a person who lacks confidence. I'm very quite. Cause I want my life to be meaningful not just accept rejection all the time. Already first rejection and it's not a good feeling iny stomach causes me nausea

I know there a lot girls also who can be bought with money. Some girls needs a financially stable guy or a rich guy to help with financial burden. But I feel that's not love bro. Because I seen guys dating Thailand girls and Vietnam girls but they seemed to be involved with a lot of money. That's more like financial love. I kinda want who like me for who I am and not because of the money. Kinda want a true romantic partner instead of constantly thinking a bout money kinda of girl. I understand the world has become very materialistic but Im an old thinking person. I don't like money to revolve around love concept. Everyone can make money but true feelings and love is ancient bro even in this materialistic world(modern world). I'm more ancient lover then a modern lover bro

That's the lucky one. Little that they know Ramjade is sitting on a mine of exponential growth hidden from plain sight. hahahaha. Exactly, you want the girl who likes you for who you are, not what you have.

I understand you bro. Rejection is to accept. I completely understand it may still apply I love as well. But love really hurts.Especially those memories. If job rejection I can handle pretty well. But love rejection really hurts. It also hurts my image and who I am. After love rejection I stopped looking at my image a lot thinking I'm not handsome enough.Maybe it's the girls not so much about. But I understand your idea of rejection. Time to create new memories then

It's all English Movies.
1st movie was an Action Romance films. Hey i thoughts romantic films work. But she was to busy with her phone. Most of the time she was with her phone chatting with someone which i don't know who(maybe her ex boyfriend?)

2nd movie was an Animated film i like animated films thought she might like it. But she invited her cousin along whom is also a girl which i didnt mind.

3rd film was also an English film i thought she might. i asked her if she wanted popcorn but she was too busy with her phone again.
other was outing at Starbucks Cafe and Morning walking around the polo ground. I thought girls like active guys. But she seemed uninterested in my skipping rope skills. I can skip rope pretty well.
Starbucks cafe she invited her cousin again i felt i couldnt express my feelings because her cousin was there. I thought her cousin may vomit if i discuss my feelings.
Akward at Starbuck i kept a poker face as i order Coffee.

Last outing was morning breakfast where we ate Wan ton mee at an old coffee shop which i know the Stall owners since childhood. She shared some travelling trip s of her where she went to europe and usa, I forgot to mention she is a very rich girl. Had a Hyundai Veloster. I waas driving a Honda Crz. My mother keeps telling me girls like me because of my Car. is it true she only came to me because i had a nice car?FOR ME I DONT like girls who chase me because of my wealth and nice things. I thought it was a sincere feeling.

Well that's your thoughts.. Everyone has their opinions I respect. But some girls like guys who bring them to cinema.. it's not about million net worth bro. Like my dad had only rm100 when he married my mom. After he climbed the ladder. I always take my dads advice. Simple is the best. That how my dad met my mom. A cool car is only an addition. As I told you I'm an ancient lover not a modern lover. So you may understand my age group. May older women may think that way don't know youngsters and don't care about their opinions. You must understand certain things about the modern world and the ancient one. Modern is all materialistic. There is even a song about it. Ancient lover is everlasting. I hope you can understand bro. I don't know how old you are but my age group is all ancient lovers bro.Even they know what hardworking money is with old lovers

So maybe cinema wasn't a good idea. Maybe my mistake. If you were me what place would you bring a girl at?. Starbucks Cafe? What would be an ideal place for a date?
Maybe next time I could ask a girl out to that place.Thanks

Hmm sushi and walk park sounds like a good idea for next date

🤣
It is a good idea if it’s Ramjade’s girl.
You bring my girl go have sushi and walk in park, she will ask you fly kite in the park yourself.

Then you depress again.

Hahaha never mind lah. You too dense cannot be saved already. Good luck ok. Share good news after you succeed.

Or you trolling us, really that dense meh. Anyway thanks for the entertainment.

u test the girl, u think girl can't test u back?

normally on first date, I will offer to AA. if the guy accepted, then Adiós. no green flag, no gentleman at all. stingy is a disease, thrifty different story.

girl pays her own meal because girl knows her place there's no free lunch in this world. so tell me, what's it gotta do with sincerity?

also, your words contradict to each other leh. you test girl bring to cheap makan place = can, when time kena test on AA = 'I won't pick that kind of girl'. doesn't seem welcoming to me.

and yeah, you will definitely pay for first date cause already gave you the cheat code. You knew it was a test. If never confide to you? Guarantee 101% you have eaten the bait and happy to AA. Why? cause it aligns to the values and principles you hold so dear.

what i'm trying to imply here, it goes both ways. you test the girl, be prepare to get tested too. when you lose the mind game, don't kpkb.

bruh.. if u paid then why make a big hoohaa? it means u have passed the test. end of story. why are you still questioning about its sincerity and accusing the test as hypocrite?

I could argue day and night about u offering to normal cheap place, but did I make noise about it? you got right to test, girl has same privilege too. it is not always looking at your own standard every single time. if it is, then you are damn selfish.

selfish + stingy = catastrophe.

sekejap say welcome to be tested, but when got tested rant and complaint. haih, men and their words. if can trust it, shit also can eat.

From what I see that girls also test a guy out. Whether he treats well or if she sees he has enough money to spend. Maybe in older times where things weren't so expensive and not many fancy things before a lot people could afford. As I witness things are getting expensive and there is demand for people who are wealthy. I think girl also same. Maybe the girl I dated before was also seeing my wealth. Cause I also bring her to simple place. If modern times people become more materialistic I actually lost interest in dating. That's why I seldom talk to girls already. Hoping in future could find a simple who is less materialistic example not interested in branded items or luxurious goods. Simple like drinking coffee or going for walk in the park perhaps even cinema. Cause I like the idea of first date at cinema. I didn't regret going to cinema with my previous date. If things work God bless. If not it probably for the better.God bless

Actually… me being neutral party to both your conversation. Effectively what will happen is that you’ll know Ramjade is not the guy for you… and you won’t follow up.

He will think, hey cool, this lady offer to AA and ok with cheapo place. Got potential.

It’s not a trick lah. It’s a filter test. You offer AA, the guy accepts, you will AA and sayonara the guy.

If it’s the first time meeting, I will always foot the bill, even if I don’t have any intention of seeing her again. If she offers to AA, I’ll say sure, the next time we meet — if I want to meet her. Else I’ll say, it’s okay the pleasure is mine. But hor, I heard across the causeway, all AA one. lol.

He is not going into defense mode la, its just you stuck in your perspective cannot understand where he is coming from.

I personally find his approach weird also, but it works for him. So who am I to judge? He knows what he wants in a partner, and he set out to get what he wants.

His "test" is straightforward, he bring the girl to a cheap place because he is showing her that's what life with him is going to be. He has mistakenly called it a "test", when in fact its really a demo/trial.

Using your version of a test and fit into his scenario. Would be more like he take her to somewhere cheap to "test" her, when normally in life he would go fancy place to makan. Protect himself from "gold-digger", but what if the girl is not a gold digger, but actually just don't like to eat fancy food? She might like to go cheap place, but now when in normal mode, he want to go makan fancy place will be incompatible in the relationship already. Stupid test.

Its the same with your AA test. What does it prove? A guy willing to go AA is stingy? No. You offered, he accepted; maybe he wanted to respect your autonomy? Just because he accepted doesn't mean he is stingy, and just because he paid doesn't mean he will continue to be generous. It is frankly a very stupid test; as most relationship tests are.

You want the guy to be a provider, nothing wrong with being upfront about it. Any guy who makes noise about it, that's their problem. It filters them out much faster also right
Sadly, the dating market is really f`ked up. I'm so glad that I'm no longer in it.

Its become quite common for fairly attractive ladies to go on dates specifically for free meals. Even in my time I know a few people who did stuff like that, but it was very rare. Dating apps has just made it too easy and common. These ladies would go out for meals with the simps, but have the fun part with their choice of mate.
Really? I think we shouldn't be that far in age, but during my time I used to chat up random people all the time. People are generally friendly, not as open as the aussies of course.

Like I tried to explain

Its the confusion between test and trial.

He is giving them a trial of what life with him is like. A girl can also do the same to him and say "if you want to date me, take me somewhere nice". Which is fine if the girl expects that to be part of their relationship.

If you offer AA but actually want him to pay; as a test. Then all you're doing is setting up false expectations on both ends. Every guy knows this rule, and if they want to play the game, they just play it. No sincerity, no guarantee it will continue long term. On the girl's end, the test only provided short-term answer.

Testing in such a manner is failing strategy. Its also not a good way to start a relationship where you're constantly "testing" each other, no trust and honesty. So if you're "tested" in such a manner, I don't think its unreasonable to feel put off by it. Its a dishonest interaction, and would you want to be in a relationship like that long term?

Do the trial method instead and be clear with your expectations so everything moves on the right track.

There is no smoke without fire. I am only here cause his "test" caught my attention, hence, giving him the same perception albeit different scenario. Don't understand why you need to keep on yapping like a broken record by comparing the context of each test or trial whatever you called it?

What you wanna prove? he has every right to trial, mine is so goddamn wrong that you have to step in and be the white knight huh? If you need that validation, take it cause i don't care. you bring your date eat at longkang also nobody bother.

There is a reason why he is still searching until today. If those girl that he dated can score better partner, why would they want to settle for less?