Had a random thought again. My ex and admirers previously told me how some girls pursued and seduced them. They accepted some, but didn’t like others.
What I noticed was that their feelings for the women who pursued them weren’t as deep as when they pursued women (in this case, me).

So, I asked them why.
My ex said he was a gentleman, so he just accepted girls he felt were okay.
The analyst guy said he accepted out of curiosity but didn’t take things further.
The finance guy said it was for fun, and he didn’t have any intentions of getting serious with them.

It makes me think...
While most men claim that they'd love to be desired and pursued by women, but...
If a woman pursues a man only to receive his partial affection or half-hearted/zero commitment, then why should she pursue him unless she doesn’t mind? 
In my case, all three of them pursued me and were quite serious and persistent, so I tend to think that maybe...
In general, it’s better for men to initiate the pursuit, and women can give the greenlight afterward.

What do you guys think?

& you're right about men wanting to feel they're chosen, not preyed upon by women.

It is. She did told me, I hope you would pick me and I think I she is right. I am going to pick her as she passed all my test.
I don't care if she didn't initiate the pursue as most important for me is she can pass my test.
She pursuing is just bonus for me.

my experiences are, they are gonna start being aggressive, especially those beautiful ones.
i give 10 real life examples (with a few different girls)
1) putting on the song "Kiss Me" in the car while saying she wanted to kiss me ever since the first date
2) asking which bed/mattress to get because we are gonna "use" it together
3) when i wondered how does a person with tongue piercing kiss, offers to give me a French kiss
4) Asking me to go vacation with her, just the 2 of us ( she even has a boyfriend )
5) Asking me to contact her partner thru a website because the partner is looking for a threesome with a stranger. i cant tell her partner i know her.
6) Gave hints about how nice to stay at this hotel nearby. How she wants to try staying. when i didnt do anything (like get a room there) she leaned over and whispered, "if u dont have money for the hotel, i will pay for us". She did.
7) when in a room together, suddenly feels hot and take off clothes (it is airconditioned, i felt cold actually)
8) when in a room together, instead of going to a more private area to wipe herself with a wet towel (it was in summer)  she purposely wipe herself while revealing her sexy body to me. happened in a staff rest room.
9) when going to toilet to "freshen up" purposely go on top of me (cowgirl style) to get to the other side of the bed. she can easily get down on her side of the bed.
10) telling her other friends that she really really likes me when im like standing nearby and obviously can hear what she says.

Is this what most men want from women?
Not just love and sex, but understanding them...

Yeah, but women tend to think men want sex more than understanding... you know, 下半身思考 (think with the lower half of the body)…

haha... I like your analogy.

Men want sex, love, and understanding. Basically, physical + emotional + mental = the complete experience.