Men who pursue women doesn’t always mean he loves her. It might be because of her beauty only, sex or money, not love. And they can be very persistent to get their agenda. Those gaslighting and abusive relationship often starts when they prey and pursue on the vulnerable ones.

Likewise women pursue men doesn’t always mean he loves her half hearted forever. Once a “loser” doesn’t mean forever a “loser”. Sometimes men accept the relationship means he is willing to give her a chance. Willing to open his heart to the unknown. Some cases, he ended up loved her more after the relationship flourished. Mostly, the relationship dynamic will change until almost equal. Unless those already have the thought of finding a better one and treating the current one as only a temporary staycation, that is a different story. Of course these men exist so the keyword is finding the right person. I have seen both types of men. The 2nd type is terrible. Thankfully the girl is now married with a kid. Also there are women who accept men half heartedly. Too many, my dear to count. There are also cases that men ended up being cheated on despite the ex gf was the one who made the first move. So yeah, surprise! Things might change after a few years so nothing is for granted. And this kind of thing isn’t gender exclusive. It happens to both genders.

I’m not sure why the people think girls making the pursue = cheap. Lol. Probably too little life experience and only consume media? Yes, there are promiscuous girls those belong to this category but there are also a lot of girls that genuinely wanted to find a mate and settle down. They might not be the shiniest in the room, in fact they are more of a diamond in the dust. Since they are not visually shine, if they still persistent to wait for the men to make the first move, sorry to say the chances of getting a mate is sooooooo slim. Until almost nil. We are in 2025 already. It’s not wrong to make the first move. The one who pursue (men or women) might seem like a “loser” but if found the right person, it doesn’t matter who makes the first move. To me, it’s wrong if:

1. You are desperate to get a mate
2. You do not know when to let go when things doesn’t work
3. Does not cherish when the opportunity arrives

Every relationship is a “gamble”, an unknown game and you need to start in order to find out whether it works for you or not. If it doesn’t work, just get out after the trial period and start again. Thank you, next.

One thing for sure, I probably won’t pursue the way as TS does, and I sure don’t have the patience to wait for someone as long as TS does. If he makes me wait, means I am not a priority and I ain’t gonna settle for less. Life is too short for that. And there are many fishes in this world.