Consider a few things.

Being more persistent and serious doesn't ensure a long lasting relationship. I think what's more important these days is a relationship that lasts.

Second. Men pursuing women is probably a recent phenomenon if you consider the whole history of homo sapiens. The powerful men in the past got all the girls without even trying. Romance has only been introduced with mass media.

No conclusions. Just thoughts

This post has been edited by Sihambodoh: Feb 27 2025, 12:47 AM

More thoughts.

Those men in 50s 60s now, most of them have been brought up to serve and to protect. And most women of that generation were brought up to nurture the husband and the children. I think this generation of men will probably prefer to pursue and the women want to be pursued. Somehow relationships of the older generation are more genuine and balanced. They are brought up to fit into the family unit.

Now the younger generation is a mess. Not all of course, but prevalent than before. Men have lost their purpose, some don't even know what it means to be a man. No mission, no goals. Cornography kills any drive to win. Women get too much attention from social media that it skews their view about how a balanced relationship should be. They expect a lot from men and contributing to a relationship doesn't even cross their mind, what more pursuing men.

But will the old ways of men pursuing women work these days? It still does, but less effective. There is an imbalance of power and men pursuing women adds to the imbalance.

What about the opposite? What if young women start pursuing you men? I somehow think that if a women pursues, the relationship has a higher chance to last than not. All things equal, men today will definitely prefer a woman chasing them than a woman they have to chase. So yeah it will work better if a woman pursues a man. But the likelihood of this is very low. Firstly, the imbalance of power that I mentioned. Second, the man pursued is more likely than not to struggle with being a man. Women need leaders.

To recap - women pursuing men may work better in modern dating scene if the woman believes that a relationship must be balanced, and if the man being pursued is a high value man.

Just opinions derived from data plucked out from my ahole.

This post has been edited by Sihambodoh: Mar 1 2025, 01:17 AM