May 2 2025, 04:52 PM
QUOTE(Ralna @ Jan 20 2025, 02:28 PM)
In response to your question, most men don't mind. In fact, many are happy if their wives earn more than they do.
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Years ago, I had this conversation with my ex-fiancé. Given our age gap, it was likely that I would eventually out-earn him, and he jokingly mentioned he’d become my toy boy and househusband. He talked about cooking, cleaning, taking care of our future children and dogs, and even volunteering for charity to contribute to society.
I’m good at business and don’t mind being the breadwinner. In fact, I believe employment can sometimes be detrimental for men in the long run, as it often leads to overwork, stress, and health issues. The higher a man climbs in the corporate world, the more challenges, stress, and office politics he faces, which can take a toll on both his health and the time he spends with loved ones.
Last year, a guy friend of mine shared how several of his peers suddenly collapsed and died in their 40s. They all worked in MNCs. He then told me why he quit his corporate job a decade ago—it had become so stressful that he fell into depression. He eventually found a new path in the financial planning industry.
Speaking of MNCs, my ex-fiancé was at the C-level. When we first met, he was rather cold and emotionless. He admitted to numbing his feelings constantly at work. He didn’t enjoy his career but felt obligated to continue because of the high salary. He was retrenched several times due to external factors, and I emotionally supported him through those tough moments, watching him become depressed and withdrawn.
Because of his employment experience—and my own—I decided to go into business full-time. I find joy and motivation in building my capacity to offer my future husband the option to quit his job, be a househusband, contribute to society, pursue his hobbies, and even earn some pocket money if he chooses to.
However, if my future husband were to take advantage of me, laze around at home, neglect household duties, and not contribute to society, I would lose respect for him. That’s not the kind of man I want to marry.
I’m also fine if he wants to continue working while I manage the household. But if he’s stressed and wants to resign, he can take a career break, be a househusband for as long as he likes, and explore his hobbies or other income streams.
I think most men would appreciate having those options. It’s an ideal situation that can only happen if the wife earns more than her husband.
Very mature thinking. I remember reading your posts like a decade or so ago, glad to see you are still around here.---
Years ago, I had this conversation with my ex-fiancé. Given our age gap, it was likely that I would eventually out-earn him, and he jokingly mentioned he’d become my toy boy and househusband. He talked about cooking, cleaning, taking care of our future children and dogs, and even volunteering for charity to contribute to society.
I’m good at business and don’t mind being the breadwinner. In fact, I believe employment can sometimes be detrimental for men in the long run, as it often leads to overwork, stress, and health issues. The higher a man climbs in the corporate world, the more challenges, stress, and office politics he faces, which can take a toll on both his health and the time he spends with loved ones.
Last year, a guy friend of mine shared how several of his peers suddenly collapsed and died in their 40s. They all worked in MNCs. He then told me why he quit his corporate job a decade ago—it had become so stressful that he fell into depression. He eventually found a new path in the financial planning industry.
Speaking of MNCs, my ex-fiancé was at the C-level. When we first met, he was rather cold and emotionless. He admitted to numbing his feelings constantly at work. He didn’t enjoy his career but felt obligated to continue because of the high salary. He was retrenched several times due to external factors, and I emotionally supported him through those tough moments, watching him become depressed and withdrawn.
Because of his employment experience—and my own—I decided to go into business full-time. I find joy and motivation in building my capacity to offer my future husband the option to quit his job, be a househusband, contribute to society, pursue his hobbies, and even earn some pocket money if he chooses to.
However, if my future husband were to take advantage of me, laze around at home, neglect household duties, and not contribute to society, I would lose respect for him. That’s not the kind of man I want to marry.
I’m also fine if he wants to continue working while I manage the household. But if he’s stressed and wants to resign, he can take a career break, be a househusband for as long as he likes, and explore his hobbies or other income streams.
I think most men would appreciate having those options. It’s an ideal situation that can only happen if the wife earns more than her husband.
Anyway don't know what the issue with men having ego bruised when partner earns more. My wife earns more than I do. I still have not quit and continue working. We share most of the household costs, but we do not calculate till the last cent. When eating out, usually I pay and when we go for nice meals she might pick the tab too. Holidays - usually she will handle the flight tix, I handle hotel and ground expenses etc.
I had been through depression from work stress, so I can appreciate you giving that option to your (future) partner. I hope he gives you that option too. Sometimes I really want to quit but I also feel obligated to carry on due to the salary.
If you don't mind me asking, how did you first started out venturing into business? I've always wanted to make that switch but I find it scary to take the leap.
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