It's so hard to know if an extrovert likes u or just friendly ))

My story:
Him & i are classmates + deskmates. We're pretty gud friends at first, but our classmates started to ship both of us, cuz one time, when we r revising for exam, he pulls his chair to sit at my table to revise, abit sus. and we also talk during class & even compare hand sizes one time:D we would place bets on exams, just drinks at 1st, then now he suggest betting on meals, IDK maybe im overthinking.

Once, my friends joke abt me dating a guy (guy A), & according to them, he looked shocked & disappointed lol idk if they exaggerate it ornot, then when they say it's a joke, he looked relieved, again they may be exaggerating. But since then, he started to ?notice me& guy A. Like, he keep pairing us up during games:((

Lol so now everyone, literally everyone is shipping us, & both of us would laugh & deny it la. They say he is kinda different & happi when talking to me. Well, idk but tbh he is kinda cold in text msg, but in real life he is rly nice to me:( but he is those rly rly friendly extroverts la so i think he is nice to everyone lol

HELPPP ME GUYSSS

Most importantly you interested with him or not?

I know there are guys like this they just comply to anything but doubtful to get in to a relationship with you, chances are many guys don't even know what they should do, he may be into you but he is not sure, but in the end of the day, what stopping you? because of the cold text? I think what matter is how he show his body language physically, girls tend to overthink too much over a text message that do not carry any tone and emotions which most of the time are neutral in guy POV.

not let those other classmate make fun of you

if you interested in him then maybe ask him out after school hours

If he pay n buy everything + take care your heart, 101% he love you.

On other hand, if he just sweet talk + promise 101% he need sex only.

just enjoy when you both still in early 20s playing this kind of hide and seek. When your get to older stage of life you realize these are just wayang only

Definitely becuz the cold text..cuz he wait very very long only reply

I think you may need to define how long is it and if it is reasonable.

Then factoring in his daily activity like sporting/gym/gaming these are the time people not convenient to reply for at least hours.

Sounds like friendship transitioning to infatuation stage, but nothing serious yet.

If you wanna know how he truly feels about you, don't just have fun. Give him some problems and see if he'll be there for you, or distance himself from you.

You are keen on the classmate but worry of the rejection(fear of embarrassment).

Few things I'll like to point out :-

1) "according to them, he looked shocked & disappointed" - was this the elaboration by the friends or you witnessed it with your own eye? If the elaboration was from your friends, it will not be a reliable gauge because the words from people can be distorted. If you witnessed the incident with your own eye, I'll say there was fluctuation of emotion based on your elaboration. If he is not interested, there should not be any fluctuation of emotion. If there is fluctuation on emotion, very likely he is interested.

2) You denied the rumors, the opponent also denied the rumors - both side is worry of embarrassment due to rejection.

Try to do these:-

1) The rumors, don't deny it. Just be neutral. Do not deny or do no admit anything, just let it pass through & laugh. You already denied before, assume that you already got used of the rumors , don't deny & do not admit. See how the reaction of the male from there onwards. Notice if he is doing similar or not. If he is also not denying = positive. If he continue to deny = negative. He is looking for hint from your end.

2) Think in the opponent's mind. You are aware that the rejection seems to be the huge psychology barrier for yourself, the similar psychology barrier is happening at his end .The pressure of embarrassment is magnified under the present of the crowds or friends. This pressure will greatly reduces in the absent of crowds or friends. Find way to reduce this "pressure" by moving away from the crowd. Don't stay with your friends all the time. Be alone more but at the close proximity to the male. See if he initiate to approach you when you are alone. If yes, then it should be moving on the correct path.

The above should be the least risky approach, usually workable for the worst case scenario. If he is extrovert as your description ( not worst case), this should even works better.

There is Chinese saying :-

For a male to pursue a woman, it is as hard as to climb the mountain or cross the sea,
For a woman to pursue a man (if the man is interested), it is as easy as removing a veil.

I wish the best to you TS.

This post has been edited by nihility: Jan 11 2025, 09:34 AM

A man should chase, and the woman should invite (create opportunity).

If you want to know his intentions, create opportunity for him to show it.