I wonder how many k's partner is way younger than them?

Like half of your age?

Any issue or challenge in the relationship?

Mind to share experience?

Literally your daughter? Lol

Generation gap is huge here. But, oh well .. if u don't have such issue then it's ok .. even a 10 year gap itself can be challenging already

TS half the age...... Ermmm better give up
Not fair to her

yes, ngam ngam half
i am 20 yo
my partner is 10 yo

This post has been edited by taitianhin: Nov 26 2024, 10:14 PM

Helo pulis

My dotter is 8, with ex now only see her in weekend.

Yea, partner is half my age. She's 24.
To be honest I don't have issue, so is her. But I think the society she's livingight judge her.

10y gap is not that hard, I had that before but not last well because I'm not catholic to her parent

Asking here if anyone have experience or not

This post has been edited by HasukiiXrd: Nov 26 2024, 10:29 PM

Seriously?

I knew someone had that real case before

Been think that before.. but ...

Why u need a partner? Old age?
What can u bring to the table by the time she is 30 yo?

Q2 is to answer Q1

R u very rich?

But if she's OK with it .. no problem there, right? If the puzzle fits perfectly, not an issue. People will always judge, but what matters only is what do you guys think. You may not outlive her. Is she OK with that?

We did talk about that, she's ok. She did wanted me to meet her parents, I'm kinda holding it for a while.

Not in top 50 Forbes list yet in Malaysia, guess I'm not over over 1 billion myr yet

Why do I need? Hmmm tough question, maybe a partner for my next journey ? and she seems like it and join & tag along with me

By the time she is 30, she would be total financial free from anywhere and anyone.

Rather than age, cultural similarities and compatibility I think is more important. As long as youre both happy, who cares about what other people think. But, if one day u told her you're bankrupt. See how fast everything tumbles down... otherwise it's a win win.

24 and 48?

she will only be 36 when you hit 60.

she will be in her prime career era, youthful, making money
you will be old, slow, partial deaf, turn high sound volume, society doesn't want to hire you, men ego challenged.

a lot of understanding is needed.

Yeah, I agree with these.
I'm into other journey and she wants to join and experience, and I'm ok with it.

Oh, yeah those are totally true.
If she been told bankrupt...lol... Yeah ...

Good. So u can provide.
As 4 marriage:
1)r u healthy?
2)r u younger than your age mentally AND physically?
3)do u want children with her?
4)whats her current job? (matters if she’s an escort/ sugarbabe (new norm) may b in just for your money… if she has qualifications n decent career, she can still work if u ever go bankrupt etc..)

I’m 9 years younger than my husband.

Pros:
He’s very mature and knows how to handle all my dramas lol

Cons:
Younger women tend to be more energetic. If you choose to marry someone much younger, try to keep up exercise and stay active.

We dated for 2 years and have been married for 5 years. We have 1 child. Relationships can work regardless of age differences. The key is to be patient with each other. Love your partner, not just the person you dated. People can change over time, and if that person is still your partner, you need to continue loving them.

Here

https://www.channelnewsasia.com/today/groun...age-gap-4672686

1 - yes, full medical checkup every year
2 - yes, and I'm still practice dance at my age. My favorite dance choreography is still Paula Abdul, Alex To and Nsync
3 - I don't mind to have with her if she wants, I already have 3 with ex
4 - She's still study and will complete Master next year, then she will following and tagging with me in my journey.

Ah, Thank you. Yes, I read that too with woman delivery a child at that age.

Must be very mentally, physically and financially ready for this.

Thank you so much on your priceless input.
Love it.

if all good, just go for it! All the best! ( Age tarak hal punya la.. as long as ngam )

but wait.. wats ur hesitation tho… why seek 3rd party opinion?

This post has been edited by TiramisuCoffee: Dec 7 2024, 08:13 PM

Just to find what else could be potential issue I might facing from anyone been through that

That lady Ginger info is quite good and valuable to me, especially from Asian lady standpoints

Honestly I am not sure how many men, but i know my partner will stick with me when I am bankrupt. Because she stood by me when I was jobless twice in the past (my own choice).

I suggest for your old sake, get someone like that. Or if you are still lusty after body at age 60-70, then get Playboy model

This post has been edited by NoComment222: Dec 7 2024, 08:51 PM

Diffeerent ppl different experience. Your case different culture sumore… btw if poor, VN gals like husband also take care / finance whole family where she came fr .

I dun suppose u can do live in 1st? Make sure “every aspect compatible”… libido, temperament etc.. ( my fren VN wifu show real face color out after marriage...) hati2…

Thanks for the tip and good for you to found one.
I have ways of filter for the one I'm looking for.

Culture difference is for sure. So far I'm she's not expecting me to take care of her family now and future, they have own farm and business running at the moment.

We're living together now with her sis.

For real color mature , I had experienced it with my ex so pretty much aware for now and future.

oledi living together huh, at d other tered someone play coy says only meet-up @bookstores! I was like uhhh…at ur age…

Anyways, I must say u protect urself pretty well… U dun need anyones advice. U knoe wat u r into…. Say, which bank offer best “trust”, a fren wants to know.. ?

This post has been edited by TiramisuCoffee: Dec 8 2024, 04:53 PM

Ahaha sorry for wrong wording which confuse you. We do hangout publicly.

But we do actually met each other from bookstore, and thing started from there

Thanks for your comment, I just want to know more .

As for trust, you meant trust in Malaysia and handle by bank?
I did with offshore trust, the local law here seem not really protect the trust if there is challenge/argument towards trust.
I chose offshore not only to protect asset but also from law stand point.

Meaning someone not only have to challenge local law here but other country, that's gonna cost more and time consuming for case to settle.

Hope your friend side getting better, the law there is pretty much sided towards local.

This post has been edited by HasukiiXrd: Dec 8 2024, 08:16 PM

For me
If married in here, better set a trust .. not will...( Lots of will case out there for references)
If married in outside and prenup is available, do prenup

Bottom line, set a trust ... If possible prenup + trust ..
And need to study the local law, if local law can't protect at some point, get offshore if can.

It's all depend on individual scenario as well. Everyone has difference in anything.
Not like someone do trust or prenup and automatically label as evil person or not love the other one, everyone does something for a reason.
Everyone has their own history.

This post has been edited by HasukiiXrd: Dec 8 2024, 08:17 PM

your sons / daughters will dislike her.
age 48 with 24, versus 9 year age gap, is very different

your mentality and her maybe good for now because of the honeymoon period.
when all settles down. there will a difference.
she is still young at 24, have not explore much of the world and might have a change of heart.
when u are 72, she is 48. remember this point too.

unless u are filthy rich and can afford good healthcare.
getting together on a 24 year old gap is just asking to win impossible odds.
yes u can win, but like naysayers say, the failure rate is 99.99%.

when u are old, your mindset will be different too, hers too.

my fren 26, her BF 48. 22 year gap.
she told me alot of her problems, some them include:
1) talking point references, example citing will be difficult, as both have different political, entertainment reference points
2) culture value difference, internet / smartphone ease versus old mentality of doing the old way is better
3) physical activity, older age get tired faster (even though both ultra fit)
4) money value, younger treasure money more, older guy just leave the money tap open

these are some more general issues, they have other specific ones, but i think those don't apply here.

this is chii's 2 cent

Yeah, … is it too late to set up trust now tat he’s merid? (2 prevent 50/50 split in d event divorce?)
Wah trust oso can b interpreted using different laws? …btw I googled abit, says trust in Msia charge a hefty 24% tax! How about offshore?

Pursuant to Schedule 1, a trust is subject to tax at the prevailing fixed rate of 24% of its chargeable income, just like a company. Unlike a company though, the preferential two-step rates of 17% and 24% for small and medium companies, is not available to a trust, however small the value of the trust property may be.

I totally agree… Merid should be for luv, not windfall wealth .. esp wealth they didn’t contribute effort in making… try tell her about prenup n trust etc ..? Watch her reactions… ( fun fact: 1 HK case.. beauty queen trophy wife got stuck with fixed monthly allowance as long as still merid…if divorce = eat dust…lol)

Anyways, confused… I tot u say Msia dun recognise prenup… meaning u must register ur marriage in VN so tat can do prenup? With tat ur existing trust = still be enforceable ?

Sorry, side topic.
You mean your ex-wife is a Catholic?
If yes, then you may run into issue, as Catholic doesn't allows divorce (eventhough you're not a Catholic).
You'll need to ensure the Catholic Church agreed to the separation officially (as you're still considered considered as your ex-wife's spouse) on Church paperwork before you can re-marry.

Seriously, does age matter nowadays ? I think "financial security" is more important and what women are interested nowadays

if you rich whatever age you like

My GF is 17 years younger and we hv been a couple for abt two and half years.

Not much problems, shes quite matured for her age and Im quite youthful in my outlook of life. Im the more adventurous, she is the more cautious.

There are many things that we complement each other. But there are some challenges:

Family acceptance: some caution at first (both sides). But got better/acceptance once become everyone more familiar.

Health: the senior partner has to be in good shape. I go to gym 4 times a week and am watchful of my food. Have to maintain this.

Career at different stages. She is still at struggling phase. Im past peak. This is potential area for misunderstanding.

So she’s only around for the money? Those type of girls, you can find them everywhere on the streets. No joke.

The worst part is when you are sick and ill in bed, will she take care of you or will she abandon you after she cleans out your bank account? There is nothing worse than being sick in bed while you see your partner sucking your bank account dry

Thanks for the input and it's already happening.
Kids told me they don't like step dad and I assume might happen at my end.

If things get worst and she is welcome to leave if she wants.
I have thing that I have to do and so does her end.

You can read over here https://www.thomasphilip.com.my/articles/ma...are-they-valid/

your friend issue, I think trust is never too late but property in vn ....

Trust in diff country works in some different way somehow.

Tax in trust, any thing in trust that produce money is taxable. You need tax game Planning
If rental properties, u can use reduce tax by it's expenses.
But if u put fd in trust ... Better take out if u want, individual earn interest is tax free

Tax code / law is your best friend

Refer to the link I gave earlier

Remember each country has difference law set... Need to study.
What works other country may not works in Malaysia

Best is , refer the previous case happened here. That could help your understanding

Not ex wife , was dating/with someone and found out

Thank you so much for input and sharing

If she's doing that, then it's fine to me.

Ok. You can say it’s fine because it hasn’t happen yet but when it does, you will be very depressed.

Trust me. It’s not worth buying love with money. Better to settle down with a woman who is around your age and not after your money.

Sorry but why bother entering a relationship in the first place if that is the end goal? Might as well get a sugar baby as it sounds like the same thing. And probably costs less money.

Kids will always be kids. They don’t like the stepdad because of change and unfamiliar environment.

Don’t settle for a gold digger. Wait for a better and more suitable woman to come along. Trust me. I waited for months before I found someone again after my divorce. And it’s harder for me to date as I have full custody of my kids and one of my kids is medically very sick.

This post has been edited by friedricetheman: Dec 9 2024, 07:26 PM

Thanks 4 info. I'll forward 2 him. They settled in Europe, doubt own any property in VN... But your case diff... u hv 2 buy a house after marriage since u hv biz there? Maybe consider a gift 2 her, in d event things x work out? All d best anyways...

6 years... younger than me

Good settled in eu , pls not any commie land .. he will regret 100%

I don't plan to buy house in vn, don't plan long term in vn.
More into nomad life now.
Biz here in vn is only manage corp for tax and expenses.
Most of biz in non apac.
Hmmm by the time when things don't work out , she already have things that benefit her for life.

Thank you for the comment

Thank you for the input.
I can feel your situation when dating as single dad and full custody.
I'm only co-parenting and custody already have local mois have alien look and threat me like I'm the one call the divorce or have lil 3 ....

Maybe someday create a topic with single daddy thread.

Did you try ladies around your age? Older women will be more open to accept divorcees/"buy 1 free 1+", because we know this just as well as men lah okay: "men age like wine, women age like milk". The thing is, when you're well into middle age, it's hard not have tried loving people into marriage, don't you agree?

True story in my extended family circle:



Likewise, I hope men can also be more open to accepting divorced women but I guess thanks to the very same saying, women are instead degraded in "used goods" and the like... Sad double standards but eh, everyone looks for something different so I can only say that if you're purposely looking for young women, then don't be surprised Pikachu if they're choosy against you, because their market should've been men their age who are less likely to be "used good".

Lastly, I apoglose to all divorcees: my choice of words reflects the social stigma/norm/stereotype and I mean no offense to anyone. I hope you find love (if you're looking).

This post has been edited by Takudan: Dec 16 2024, 11:13 PM

The ones I said those gave me those look and judgement are exactly same category of your suggestion.

For me is simple, I'm hopping around different places. If can't really into my lifestyle then I prefer not to waste anyone priceless time. Let the chance to other who is better and more suitable candidate.

Everyone has their own story and choices. Everyone has preference of their own.

One fits me doesnt mean fit other.

But as in overall I value ur priceless input for me and others who is reading.

I don't intend to start a thread and making some flame

Everyone has own value, opinion, these gain us more knowledge which is power value to anyone

Then perhaps I was wrong in the "double standards", because both genders also have equally choosy people 🥹🥹

Interesting point you have there about "hopping around" - I can imagine many people (esp. the older they get) prefer staying in their familiar comfort zone. Younger people maybe haven't met as many people so still eager to "see the world" lol.

Anyway, yes I've been stereotyping a lot here so those women who rejected you or vice versa may very well have other unsaid reasons, either way it's a long journey and hopefully you'll have fun along the way. Just remember don't stick your D into crazies lol