Unfortunately the society has created and mould men to behave such way. Open up and be vulnerable, cry are seen as weak. But most men actually do have a group of friends that are bros since young, even those people are not easily for them to open up to. Even there are people available for them to open up but as what I mentioned, society has mould them to behave as such. As for their gf and wives, are either seen as someone they need to protect like their child or some women ARE the problem.

As for me I always tell my husband to open up if he has issues with work or other stuff. He always man up and say no problem lah, I’m ok one, not so weak minded. His bro is just staying few steps away (It’s fate! We never discussed to stay together lol) so if he needed to talk to a bro it’s definitely there for him.

As for my kid, he’s not in the age that would understand life yet but when he does, I would encourage him to speak to me as a heart to heart friend. Let him know there is still mommy to talk to if things doesn’t go his way.

This post has been edited by fearless_kiki: Oct 3 2024, 06:35 PM

This is the problem with social media. They don’t reflect the true story of society as whole. If every girl also aim 10% of the guys, how many people actually date and get married lol? Also, what is consist of 10% of men? Rich and good looking? But if perangai macam babi like P Diddy is it still consider in the 10%???

Not every girl is dreaming of dating K Pop men and K pop men doesn’t exist in real life (or errr if they do, why do they want to pick a random Plane Jane. Since they are perfect they also expect perfect girl right?). Matured mind girls would understand there is no 100% perfect human in this world. Actually girls are very ok with passable looking guys and some even like bear bear tummy guys. It’s the emotional part that most often wins them. If you go out to the shopping mall, you would noticed many couple with fairly good looking girl with subpar looking guys.

Exactly! Finding a mate is so much more than tall, rich and handsome. There are so many layers to a person (morals, emotional stability, kindness, responsible etc). So that is why the picture looks so wrong as it doesn’t portray well of the true society.

And also yes, there are many good quality men and women that aren’t that obvious on the first impression, you need time to know them in order to know their qualities. Dating is more than meets the eye. That’s why I always encourage people to find a partner through their friend list as opposed to online dating. You’ll be surprised to see different angles of a person. And often I see those who have their partners with a strong friendship base often the happiest couples.

This post has been edited by fearless_kiki: Oct 4 2024, 11:55 AM

Unfortunately that exists in both genders. But “bad boys/girls”, sugar baby all those are more fun and attractive so they often fall for it. Most often are people that are lack of love from their family and lack of friendship (due to not mingle around often) tends to sink deeeeeeep into the wrong hands, thinking that’s the void to fill. While good guys/girls are “boring” as they prefer to stay at home and not so visible as the players.


One of my close friend had this encounter years before. I was told the story afterwards. (Even that it took me some time to understand why she fall from him despite no physical contact. (As my friend just hinted me they had cyber s*x, instead of saying the word. Shows that I was too innocent lol) Yes, it’s indeed BS when a person is always open to cyber s*x but not willing to meet up. She was charmed by his online presence (they encountered from online dating) and fell for him. But as time goes, she fed up from his bs of toying her around with the push pull game he played on her, not willing to meet up, my friend ended up woke up from the dream and say a f*** y** to him. Left him and search for love again, ended up now happily married with a son.

As for why he does that I have no exact idea as I only heard from the victim pov. It certainly wasn’t gay. It was definitely NOT shy because if he was shy, why would he ok with flashing around his privates to a girl that he hasn’t confirmed a gf? But my hypothesis is he is just gatal but doesn’t want to have physical s*x with random women so cyber it is.

This post has been edited by fearless_kiki: Oct 8 2024, 08:23 AM