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How to handle this situation?, I feel kind of annoyed
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TSredracer2004
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 Sep 28 2024, 11:34 AM, updated 2y ago
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My gf of 3 months now is always telling me to go "try talk to other prettier girls" and telling me to "try to get the prettier girls if I have the chance".
She's been constantly saying this and she said like "If I was in your position and if I got a shot at a Korean Oppa, I would".
I am getting quite annoyed on this. I have tried telling her nicely that she's all I want and I do mean it but she said "Since there are better ones out there, I am at loss for not trying the better ones". And also she keeps mentioning that "I can just put her at the side and treat her like side chic cause she accepts the reality that nothing is eternal and that she isn't committing 100% on this relationship with me because she doesn't want to get hurt too much".
Yes, she had gone through an ex cheating on her but it was like many damn years ago. I feel very tired handling this.
Any suggestions?
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TSredracer2004
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Sep 28 2024, 12:08 PM
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QUOTE(zuozi @ Sep 28 2024, 11:52 AM) Are ts pretty and leng zai than your gf?or your gf more 美少女，美女 than you? If yes probably one of the reasons If no then she don't know how to tell you to let you open mouth saying lets breakup , so can make ppl think you the bad guy dump her Or Your gf family telling her outside still got many more good, better, best , selection.if yes then try harder for better life only find new gf/wife. According to her, she feels she doesn't have much market, so I am not sure what she means actually. |
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TSredracer2004
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Sep 28 2024, 01:40 PM
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QUOTE(zuozi @ Sep 28 2024, 12:47 PM) Doesn't have much market meaning you are very 校草 ？ And she don't look pretty?or she 校花 or average girl? but sudah kena piap many time and can't give you her first time who serious and good to her because she feel you doesn't deserve because of her past record? feeling guilty? TS please loh, nak cerita bagi cerita habis lah, sikitx2 sikitx2 Don't lah so婆妈 。 She thinks she not pretty and nobody actually will choose her. She said she piap only her ex bf and another potential only. The other potential didn't work out and then came me. |
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TSredracer2004
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Oct 1 2024, 03:24 PM
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QUOTE(Takudan @ Sep 30 2024, 07:31 PM) She has an emotional baggage and is wielding it as a self defense weapon. She has low sense of self worth to the point that she doesn't believe anyone would like her at all, and I'll bet it's because she doesn't like herself. Considering her past, it sounds like you'll be walking on egg shells around her because whatever you do, she'll imagine that you have something going on behind her back. Since you're already in the relationship, I suggest putting in the effort to help her fix herself. But first, she needs to be open to that idea so you'll have to talk.... You can do your part to be faithful and loving, but can she do her part of loving herself and not attack anyone who tries to be nice to her? Well I did talk to her about it yesterday. She keeps insisting that she was just merely mentioning the truth and don't see what's wrong in saying those things again and again. She said that she was single for about 6 years and never had that thought until she got a boyfriend. I told her that it's her trauma that she has not gotten over. She refused to believe it saying that she has been single for 6 years so it shouldn't be the case. But I did tell her the issue is with her not really facing it when it happened while she just kept it aside. |
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TSredracer2004
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Oct 2 2024, 08:33 AM
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QUOTE(Takudan @ Oct 2 2024, 01:33 AM) It can also mean 6 years of bitterness and grudges against her cheating ex, so it's not really a good justification. There are a few things I learned being in a relationship: - not all truths should be said. There is a time and place for truth, and sometimes you bring one to your grave. - commitment to one is not just the loyalty, but also the strive for good times together. If you know your actions will hurt your partner, then don't do it. Why be together if you only want to spite him/her? There's a reason why she's saying those things, my guess: she is seeking some sort of negative validation like, "everyone cheats" and it's not healthy for the both of you. As it is now, she doesn't even acknowledge her own issue, so good luck trying to fix it.... Well for what I think, I don't think I can fix it since this is her own deep down problem and must be fixed by her ownself. |
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TSredracer2004
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Oct 2 2024, 06:29 PM
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QUOTE(ktek @ Oct 2 2024, 02:40 PM) can one. how close relation you both now visiting house/casual meet parents before ? Got visit house de but if she doesn't acknowledge her problem, how do I help her? |
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