After my friend broke up with her boyfriend, I start to fall in love with her. Occasionally she would give me mixed signals, so I decided to confess to know where I stand. She rejected me politely and clearly, saying we could still be friends but I should never fall for her as she only sees me as a friend.

I tried, hoping I can suppress my feelings back to how when she had a boyfriend. But every time we see each other, I fall for her again. I don't think I'm ready for platonic relationship with her just yet.

Should I cut all contact with her, until I'm 100% ready for a purely platonic relationship? And how to tell that I'm 100% ready?

It’s neurochemicals wreaking havoc on your emotions. Billions of little synapses firing and releasing dopamine and noradrenaline from the nerve endings that leach out into the blood stream and influence your heart rate, the sweating in your armpits and even the butterflies in your stomach.

Once you realise that you’ve been taken for a ride by these naughty neurochemicals, you can start to take back control of your life by engaging in other activities that release similar neurochemicals - eg exercise, playing games or falling in love with someone else.

Ain’t no sane self respecting man or woman should ever be held hostage by a bunch of molecules.

Me or her shed tear? She won't cry for me, she only see me as a friend.

I forgot to mention that she has 2 kids, 1 being nonverbal autistic. That's a lot to take.

In a few months, I might be grateful I dodged a bullet.