I'm one who got through that feeling years after cutting off the friendship. For context, I used to like someone at work (he's single) and we got kinda close as friends, to a point he started suspecting I liked him. Eventually I confessed, but got rejected that he only treated me as a good friend. We stayed friends (at my request), but I found myself more and more stuck in the loop. At first I was conflicted and was bad at processing my emotions, mind you I was crying every night, then decided to chase after him anyway, by asking him out 1:1, giving up after like 10 rejections throughout the year?

He left the company after, still single, but we still keep in contact on chat. Again many months later, I realised I was never getting over without cutting contact, so I abruptly blocked him and that's really when I started moving on I guess. Nightly tears became monthly fast forward to now... Never.

I don't know how others are able to stay friends and get over someone they like romantically, but I know I'm not one of them. Sounds like we're of the same kind, so I'd suggest you the same too. You can always try asking her out a few more times and you might get a different ending than me (I have a bf now and it's not him lol), but bear in mind that each attempt and longing will keep your feelings for her strong(er), so give yourself a limit to know when it's time to take over.

I did unblock and apologised to him 1-2(?) year after my abrupt cut-off back then, and we chatted for a bit there, but that was the last time we talked. In total, it's already a few years by now and I still feel the same way: it's regrettable I couldn't maintain this friendship and he was a very nice person and a good friend. However it's really awkward on my side -- I don't know how he feels about my previous actions that only gave him nothing but trouble, added with all that rollercoaster feelings I had back then... I don't feel that anymore but I still remember and maybe a sliver of those feelings won't ever go away, I guess that's nostalgia speaking.

I'm happier without him around, but the only other awkward thing now is that... We share a mutual good friend and I still feel like he's still trying not to put us in the same situation or something for example... He didn't attend this mutual friend's wedding, I did. I'm not in a position to ask why he didn't, because this mutual friend knows how I felt about him so I don't want to cause misunderstanding by asking. Yeah you get the gist... Lol.

Edit: clarified timeline

This post has been edited by Takudan: Jun 24 2024, 12:44 PM