Hi Ts, I kinda refrain from commenting but after a while seeing the replies here decided to share my opinion.

There is a saying, behind every man's success there is a women behind that man.

That also means no matter how fragile and bitter ur life would become, that women will stay by your side till the end when there's issues and help you to solve em.
Unlike these days, ppl just run away from problemz and they think divorce is a way out.

U might think I have a different view, but my case was a total roller coaster ride, I shared my story before in cupid corner I think( the pregnancy was not mine and discovered later on, gg me)

Saying ids normal, it's like saying lgbt is normal, it keep occurring until think it's a normal thing, but it's not suppose to be.

Learn this phase + mix with some random thought = u only truly know someone when they are push to a corner, stress, trap, and then only you will see their true character and how they deal with issues, till then it's all disguise.

That's why some of them who shared their story, when they lost job, women wanna leave them? If they truly love you. They will go through thick and brick. Let's not even start about if they are competent enough, they also Can earn isn't? Since these days is all about using our head n skills to earn money.

Women algorithms is just simple, they love attention and seek attention creatures but at the same time get bored quickly. They leave this relationship to start a new one but going through the same thing, get courted, want guy to chase over, do romantic stuff, ( same cycle isn't) but then ppl say the spark is not there.
Not there then, start it again lar! Find back why u guys were together in the first place.

Hence the simply saying is mentality is crucial here, u do something too much the stop it. Would be a bummer cause the benchmark has been set.

But at times, there is also tolerance part thy failed. And a combination of csnt accept the person flaw discovered later on ( everyone early just cover their bad side hence the bad ones show once live in)

Some women love to nag, while men hates nagging. Could be a simple household stuff, instead of saying once and moving on.., they would go on and on and on and oooo on about it because? The guy keep doing his habit, and the other can't take it. N in turn, that's where the toxicity starts.

But ppl forget, u can't change habit, it's been molded thorough our mind until that person breaks that habit.

That's why these days, no need for big weddings, have a big one once u reach 10 anniversary with kids and.. 20, it would be more meaningful.

BTW I got divorce as early as 28 years old, something early that doesn't happen to most ppl.

Lesson learn, breaks ppl character
, observe how they deal with issue
Find out if they have ur back or will pack your bags when there's no money ( u can do ur business and be successful now but every 20 to 30 years economy landscape always change, local retail is nor as good compared to 20 yeads ago before this shift to online business)
Discover how tolerable they are
Mentality when comes to finance purchases, raising kids, household things to do ( some. Must only do their way cause their mother thought them and created the secret stylof house chores technique.)
Maintain your spark, don't over do it n stop it. For women, they also can ignite the spark together instead of complain pot (again mentality)
And talk and be honest.
And again, no, it's not normal.


But about perla part where the guy just doesn't care anymore of his wife, even to the point Injured and let her fall from the car, that is the toxic case plus the man hearts is already in another women.

If the heart is there, in a fit of scolding or indirect action that cause Injury, the first instinct is to already rush to aid without thinking and whatever difference u had 1 second ago all go away.
Hence there are some, argue later, whirl being together. That what it takes to be the better person.

This post has been edited by shadowglow: May 9 2024, 09:53 PM

see, that part again. Not sure why, somewomen, has this ego in them.

you folks observe and let me know of this later. Women who cant be boss in their career, try to be bossy at home.

Passive at work but boss at home.

Ironically, the ones who is boss at work, is more passive at home.

And they believe only their way only works, and cant try something else.

Hence, even before married, regardless which religion u are, best to hang on at home and observe how they handle day to day chores and things, to actually get a knowledge how they deal with life situations and this is not even a actual crisis. watching movies, going out to event, doesn't tell crap about ur partner.

At times i think, go travel and then purposely make an issue, ( eg simply act and say( in a prank way) lose their passport, and see how they behave and react, maybe simply go all the way to foreign embassy and last minute also discovered it back. ) to understand one's character.

need to throw these question, if 1 day u lose ur job, how are u gonna handle it? deal with it, solution?

Although words can be a lip service, but it's a start to gauge how their brain is wired.