Maybe go marriage counseling.
kids how old? Not easy jaga kids and the house. House work is the most insane monotonous repetitive shit that will drain your soul. Everyday without skip must take cloth masuk washing machine, wait 1hour+ then hang them all. Chase after the sun, beware of rains and to collect them as soon as dry else those cloths become damp when the weather cools suddenly. On top of that got kids at home ur sink forever has some stuff waiting to be cleaned, slack a bit the whole sink will become like gunung there. Other than that u need to plan groceries, plan what to cook, keep track of kids enrichment classes, school progress and attend to their daily request.
At the same time housewife social circle also damn limited compared to your work place. They daily interact with kids. The adults around them aint normal either, cos they will be similar housewife or educators (honestly in malaysia the teacher all got very bad ppl skill).
Finally those housewife will always feel "trapped". Cos everything they do will revolve around the kids/family. Totally no time to do whatever fuck they want. You can go snake at work place, go social with kolik. They have very limited options cos need jaga kids. At night need to be like prostitute attend to ur sexual need no matter how tired. worse if u sour face her and question her "what did u do whole day?".
And remember, housewife basically got no retirement fund. No EPF. Their fate is solely on ur hands. You can divorce her when she is 50s' . if u are cruel enough u can bankrupt her through divorce proceeding just so she give up on lengthy battle to claim half ur asset. because she literally has no savings for lawyer unless u give her bonus cash in her own name occasionally. Everything she has will be solely from u. It's not the type of life u will call secure. Which also the reason why housewife non stop asking for this n that, they just want to feel appreciated but using the wrong method.
But as a person who had gone through shit, I know I can survive even with 0 everything