No opinion…. It’s a matter between 2 adult parties.

I have a pair of classmates, both doctors from Uni who got married, had kids, and now are separated but we still have both of them over for our Uni group gatherings…

was that an expectation from her, you or both?
men are meant to be provider of the family. I personally cannot accept if a man earns much less than me. it's not about the money per se, it's about how one's mind is aligned to improve life.

It's the rationale where if I can make my own money, why would I even need you, and men often put their self image as provider of the family, less provider of emotional needs. that is why many high ranked highly educated women end up being single.

im not even a high maintenance person, have 0 liking to branded bags etc, love roadside food, walking is my fav things to do. restaurants make me anxious as too many protocols to follow, but even if im low maintenance, it's about the alignment of mindset.

I personally don't think it's wrong for women to want a men with a roof, and a car. takkan go for a guy with only a bike. women's nature is to look after kids and to ensure the kids survive.

it's a lonely journey out there for men, but also for women.

not easy have marriage these days, both exhausted, drain of energy and money, and too much problems.

in no ways my above statement is directed to you but in general.

thanks for sharing your story.

hello there

i got divorced last december after 6 years of marriage. we were childhood friend and i've known her since i was 11 from an online game we used to play together. i am now 32 and she is 34.

1) at the point where i see there is no change of heart from my ex-wife after i tried to fix everything for almost a year

2) we did try to hold on for our son who is now 5yo. but some things are not fixable anymore.

3) Yes there will be lots changes in our life. But we keep the things between us only. We are now co-parenting and we took turn caring for him. usually i spend the
    week with him and he went to his mother on the next one.

4) Financially became unstable for me because previously we shared the bills together. So now it is 100% on me it hit me like a truck. One of the reason of my
  divorce is due to my inability to earn more and provide a better living condition to my family.

5) it felt bad so bad during the early days, when i had no one to talked to. i've had sleepless nights and all. now i started accepting it and it slowly calmed me down.
    currently i am staying at my friend house as he let me stay to finish the edah period. Although i am overstaying for a bit because i am fixing my old house.
My opinion: Divorce should not be a a bad thing to begin with. but we in Malaysia had always been a certain view on it. it could mean a fresh start or anything.
                  Sometimes, things just don't work out they way we expected it to be.

just change your wife

problem solved

I might be going to divorce next month,
After our kid birthday celebration,

No 3rd person issue, just that we cannot understand each other and decided to stop instead of continue & make it worse.

Different upbringing is the main issue i guess.

My kid 4 years old,

She filed for divorced since march, i tried to postpone and fix for our kid, but everything i do she thinks that i had bad intention towards her, like wanting to get the kid custody from her,

this week i have been sending my kid to playschool, but today she is sending,

somehow when driving i was daydreaming and turned up at my kid playschool (it was just infront of my house),

she saw me & accuse me not trusting her to send the kid to school,

All sorts of things, im also tired already, if possible i also would like to tahan until my kid is bigger 7-9 years old or so.

I even went to see psychologist for this,
One of the advise, the psychologist says that she deals with a lots of kids too, and for kids in troubled family,

They actually feels better if their parent seperate and take care of the kid together rather than both parent staying & fighting all the time.