Wife was the chief breadwinner for nearly a decade, while I was doing my housemanship, medical officership, specialist exams, junior specialty positions etc.

I'm lucky she never walked out on me.

Now she's retired and I'm the only breadwinner...

... deswai I will also retire next year, so I don't have to support her hahaha.

Now here is the problem when you say it's normal because the environment generalize it (classmate also consist of divorce parents).

In future, all these kids won't take marriage oath seriously. They can just sign the paper and divorce when they deem it fit.

Which makes me conclude that most of divorce case come from broken family background. their parents divorce, to them divorce is a "norm" too.

From my POV, I will never allow my child to have any romantic relationship with broken family kids. I nurture them well, end up become broken. what's the point then?

want to share my story brief and short, not good in writing essay 

im a divorcee and just remarried not long ago

i married young age 21, cos pregnant. ex not working. i work alone to support the family. bought low cost property and move out from in law house.
ex changed became abusive and disrespect to me after he found job. tahan 8 yrs. cannot tahan any longer. divorce
i moved out from my own house, kid follow ex and MIL. and i rent far away, changed job and start all over again. every week met my kid bring go jalan.
(after several police report) because my ex refuse to let me see my kid.

met my current husb at new place. initially planning not to have kid cos i fobia already. YOLO
We stay in as couple for 9 years, never have big arguments, no shouting, we discuss and fix issue openly, we share chores, we share bills, we share hobby.
we share everything. and just recently i decide to open my heart for a family again. we got married recently and planning to have 1 kid only. haha

as for my gal, she grow up and we are like sister now 

my advice, not all divorce are bad.
no use to maintain a marriage if no love and respect for each other. it will just make the couple and kid to suffer more.

hi there, i have been following your posting recently. Hope you are fine

I know the feeling being sole breadwinner in the family. Hence, i don't usually calculative on this part as long as the guy have job and contribute financially, im ok. doesn't matter who pay more who pay less. be reasonable and allocate some for savings. the rest is up to u what to buy no permission needed.

As we both are working and contribute financially together, same goes to house chores, we do it together also. example i vacuum you mop, you cook i do the washing. you throw the trash i put dustbin bag etc. that's how we share. after all that done, we Netflix together. never start the tv if either one of us not done yet.

Effort to commit and responsibility in a relationship is very important and this cant be bought by money. Yes, with money u can hire maid etc.
But for me, this kind of relationship are risky cos the foundation are lining with money not efforts and hard work.

Everyone can have money but not everyone can have the efforts and hard work.
just my dua cents.