Apr 24 2024, 11:24 AM
QUOTE(nihility @ Apr 24 2024, 10:00 AM)
A lot of pubic got it wrong. It is not the task of present generation alone themselves to raise the children. Raising the children, you need the combination of 3 generations - there is proverb stating "it takes a village to raise a child". If any of these elements are missing, you will experience the extreme condition to raise the children.
If the elder generation refuse / not willing to help the current generation in raising a next generation, thing is a lot more difficult. If you have elder parent who loves the children, raising the younger generation will be much more easier. No new parent have the experience to raise the children except the previous generation - this is the fact.
What is scarce nowadays is the "quality time". The period of raising the children from new born to 3 ~ 4 years old is the most tedious & difficult. It will drain away a lot of you daily energy if the mother is working + no one is helping out. If you experience this, you will be certain to think twice to have another newborn & repeat the process again. This process itself creates fear even to the couple earning decent living.
Nowadays, a lot of the previous generation emphasis on freedom of living, asking them to take care their grandchildren is a no no as they will feel that their time will be "binded" toward the commitment.
Those who have the previous generation who loves the children & willing to do anything for their grandchildren are the most blessed couple out there.
how bout 'no'.If the elder generation refuse / not willing to help the current generation in raising a next generation, thing is a lot more difficult. If you have elder parent who loves the children, raising the younger generation will be much more easier. No new parent have the experience to raise the children except the previous generation - this is the fact.
What is scarce nowadays is the "quality time". The period of raising the children from new born to 3 ~ 4 years old is the most tedious & difficult. It will drain away a lot of you daily energy if the mother is working + no one is helping out. If you experience this, you will be certain to think twice to have another newborn & repeat the process again. This process itself creates fear even to the couple earning decent living.
Nowadays, a lot of the previous generation emphasis on freedom of living, asking them to take care their grandchildren is a no no as they will feel that their time will be "binded" toward the commitment.
Those who have the previous generation who loves the children & willing to do anything for their grandchildren are the most blessed couple out there.
It's true any loving grandparents will want to participate and this do help, but It's not the grandparents 'task' per se.
They can participate when they are willing and available, but it should not be expected to.
QUOTE(a13solut3 @ Apr 24 2024, 10:30 AM)
i don't know about you guys.
but my 22 month baby sometime just out of nowhere come and hug me and say love you.
if i am hurt or saw any part of my body bleeding, she will just go and sayang that part.
every night without fail, light off she will say night night and love you to both of us before tido.
i don't even know if she understood what it was or not.
anyway, it was the best gift i can ever have.
Congratulations.but my 22 month baby sometime just out of nowhere come and hug me and say love you.
if i am hurt or saw any part of my body bleeding, she will just go and sayang that part.
every night without fail, light off she will say night night and love you to both of us before tido.
i don't even know if she understood what it was or not.
anyway, it was the best gift i can ever have.
It's a reflection of you and your partner for being lovely and caring.
Of course personality is a thing that born with, she's naturally more lovely but that is only 1 side of a human being, and human are much more complex.
Be ready to find out in other department that she's lacking and ready to help her with those, like she could be later on too soft, afraid of confrontation, lack of competitiveness, unambitious and prefer stable life. (Im not saying she is, just example and not necessarily a bad thing also if she' cruising well in life).
What i meant is people wont be perfect, don't be contended for how lovely she is now, but still strive to give her guidance in all ways of life, so she can be great and well balanced.
Happy for you.
QUOTE(ticke @ Apr 24 2024, 10:45 AM)
problem is the kid is carsiew. mentally challenged from the get go, although physically abled...surprise muthafarka!
most likely the parents are charsiew too. Charsiew doesnt grow one day, is a bbq'ing process of continuously many many years.
I've been observing many many years, people been roasting charsiew themselves, and guess who have to face the consequences the most?
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