Agree.. this is super common in corporate life..especially in Msia.

I think everywhere in the world is the same.

u can't avoid every bully u find.

instead of hoping for calmer sea, be a better sailor instead

learn how to manage and deal with them. this is a skill one need to master if u want to rise above

u can't avoid every bully u find.

instead of hoping for calmer sea, be a better sailor instead

learn how to manage and deal with them. this is a skill one need to master if u want to rise above

Few reasons. The decision to switch roles stemmed from a difficult time in locating any opportunities remotely suitable to what I do. The market pay for the role I'm looking at is significantly lower than what I received previously. After months of trying and still nothing promising, I made the tough call to explore roles outside my expertise. Then came this role which was recommended by a recruiter.

Perhaps in a combination of how everyone kept telling me that times are bad and wanting to be employed within my  timeline, I accepted the job offer that I currently have in order to make full use of my time. In terms of a sizable paycut, I later learned from an employer that the recruiter and the management were in cahoots on this (something along the lines of bumping the salary package during job advertisement, but be honest that the amount they offered was lower.) I was also "prepped" by my recruiter to not ask about salary packages as it was a dealbreaker for the management. All in all, I was gullible and fell for it, and when it came time to speak up, did not clarify.

I'm not too worried about being asked the question, I've been approached by several recruiters and approached several myself and I have been upfront that I am dealing with a bully in my current organization and am actively seeking out due to the psychological trauma it causes me.

To provide more context on the bullying, I only learned that the bully was working in my current organization after signing the offer, as I received a message from them days after.

Early 30s. Recently started a role in Project Management. Two weeks in, tendered resignation letter. To cut the story short, found out a bully from a former workplace works there and we'll be working laterally. When I tendered my resignation letter, HR did probe and I told them as is.

Can't do much as the bullying didn't fall under the current company's purview, and the most they can do is ensure the bullying will not happen in my new company. It's not so much of the intimidation I'm afraid of, I simply do not want to be in any proximity to them, let alone the same organization.

Have since been involved in several back-and-forth conversations with HR and eventually confirmed my intention to proceed with resignation. HR has informally suggested a reconsideration.

Truthfully, part of me wants to stay, as I can see the management and my manager are doing their best to ensure no harm comes to me. However, a part of me wants to go, simply because the bully's presence has stripped all excitement I have of the job.

Job-wise, I think the learning curve is great and the potential is there. It's an interesting role but as with all Project Management-based roles, client-facing is something I dislike. But I will say I had to take a far bigger paycut than I was expecting too.

My biggest concern is, will I be looking at long-term unemployment if I leave now? I have no commitments, but I don't want to be involved in a long-term unemployment with how everyone's been telling me the economy is absolutely bad now. Can I quit, and still find employment within 1-2 months time?

If any recruiters or HR practitioners are familiar with the job market, would appreciate your advice. Project Management is fine but given how short-lived my experience is, I suppose I'll have to return to a creative role.

so as long as the bully is not your boss, I think u can survive.

sometimes at the work place, u just got to look away from these things.

As since your boss is making effort to keep you, I think u should stay because it shows honesty from ur employers to do all they can to mitigate the situation.

Its all part and parcel of life, there are always bullies this is the chance u can overcome this bully, albeit now your currect employer has realization of this.

Employer has the responsibility to correct the situation, but they are not at fault on staff being a bully. Sometimes they can't control this situation and his behaviour, because the bully doesn't break the law.

Your situation is considered less worse than those who encounter boss himself as a bully. If you still have something to learn in this company, can stay there working for this time being, earning salary, while looking for new opportunity elsewhere in future.

Employer has the responsibility to correct the situation, but they are not at fault on staff being a bully. Sometimes they can't control this situation and his behaviour, because the bully doesn't break the law.

Your situation is considered less worse than those who encounter boss himself as a bully. If you still have something to learn in this company, can stay there working for this time being, earning salary, while looking for new opportunity elsewhere in future.

Ts

If you bump into them again

That mean God wants you to face them