Hello Cupids

When to hold a girls hand? Not talking about confirmed couple, talking about when the guy is still in process of chasing her.

Terus hold in public, kena reject, malu besar.
If ask, cannot also. I watch a video, a girl say, don't ask, it will be seem as childish. Terus hold. But I as a guy think, you as a girl say is easy, if the guy you don't like trying to hold your hand?

Girls and guys, can share your experience / what you know / tips?

road crossing.

give her mixed signal. hold as if there are attacker behind her.

This kind of thing, you cannot plan one. If you plan ahead even few seconds, the scenario will come off as awkward and not natural. But as beginner just keep doing until you learn from failures

learn palmistry

crossing road

hiking

etc, u get the idea

just do it confidently, and don't ask

road crossing is the easiest. another method is to walk close to her and 'accidentally' brush your hands against hers and see her reaction. if she reacts badly then not the time. if no reaction then start with playfully holding her fingers and progress from there

Its part of physical escalation.

You need to do some casual/accidental touch at less sensitive body parts first and see how she reacts. Does she flinch or pull back to your touch?

If she shows she is comfortable with those touches, then you can test her with more intentional but brief touch and see how that goes.

The taking her hand while crossing the road example given above suits this category. Other situations you can use: coming down stairs, walking out of a busy retaurant or a club.

The holding her hand is like a protective gesture and you let her hand go when the situation is "safe".

If i like the girl, I will attempt to do this asap..date 1 or 2. I will actually just offer the girl my hand while looking at her n smile.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Mar 8 2024, 05:06 PM

just hold la in cinema when its cold... hold in car while driving her home

BUT always make sure theres a high chance that she likes you and ready to go into a relationship with you....................

from my experienced , it will come naturally , don't ever plan anything for it .. just let her be comfortable with you each time outing with her , if she likes you then naturally she will start let you to give her a cuddle even hold her hand ..

That 5 dates TS was probably also waiting for things to happen naturally also. Then kena dump.

Wrong thread? That 5 dates is different thread and different TS.

I know, I wasnt refering to you.

Guys should be more strategic when touching girls. Dont wait for "naturally will happen". You want to progressively build up her desire and attraction to you.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Mar 10 2024, 12:04 PM

TS case turn the other way around , he should move on and learn from the mistakes

Look at her eyes 1st. If her eyes "sparkle" when with you, high chances no issue to hold her hand. Just spontaneously do it while walking/watching movie.
But you need to have courage/guts to hold her hand, NOT by asking permission for it (that's a no no).
Woman likes man who have leadership & guts to show her that he really wants her.

Later kena reject, I mean she push her hand away, act like nothing happened?

So far only guys answered, need to hear from girl's perspective as well.

how many girls have you gone out in this month?
If you have gone out a lot, you dont need to ask this kind of question cause of real experiences

some day you can be touchy feely and get the attraction
some day you can just rely on your eye contact and voice to get the attraction

there's really no one way fits all

a girl may tell A guy dont touch her on first three dates
but suddenly she let the B guy touch her because there's an unspoken chemistry happening

2 types of scenarios:

1. You pull off the date very well, made her laugh a lot with your jokes, she would lightly slap your arms while laughing, there you have it, she initiated the physical first, the sign would be even stronger if she mentioned she doesn't want the date to end yet when it is supposed to end, then it is a no-brainer green light to proceed next step.

2. You don't know if dates went well or not, so you can't really access, but the thing is, the girl would still keep coming out with you, once enough times have happened, you can just proceed and see. Yes it is a gamble, but the plot has to go somewhere, inaction for very long actually just means auto give up, so summon your courage do your thing, it is either she just lets you hold, or she rejects you at that point, saves you both lots of time by no need to meet each other anymore.

If she doesnt like you, its ewww...yucks.

If she likes you then she feels good when you hold her hand, aroused even.

What do you do when a girl doesnt like you? You stop waste your time and hers.

Depends on you. I only hold hands if official. If not forget it.
Even then last time the girl I was seeing told me that she appreciates that I asked her before just simply grabbing her hand.

Different people different style. Do what you think is suitable for you. No need to blindly follow others.

Do what works. If one is regularly getting rejected, dumped n friendzoned, then likely what they are doing is not working.

hold hand mean nothing to me.

i have held hands of at least 15 girls during my pak tor days

This post has been edited by hoonanoo: Mar 13 2024, 06:25 PM

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This post has been edited by hoonanoo: Mar 13 2024, 06:25 PM

ya lor , me myself even hold someone girlfriend hand when outing with her

If the reaction is pull back, then cut the date short in 5 minutes and go home?

She let you hold on?

erm yes

But why would you wanna hold someone's gf's hand? You like her?

This post has been edited by Dongibab: Mar 13 2024, 09:39 PM

she's the one who started to hold my hand , so i'm fine with it , i do like her that time but at the same time remain as a good friend

Depends on the reaction, read body language/facial expression lah. If she looks disgusted then you definitely fucked up. If she looked surprised and just shocked, it could be that she was just startled and not used to it/ready for it yet.

Talk lah to understand more, see if she's open to try more or really want to call it off. Sometimes all you need is proper communication, especially if you're inexperienced/not good in reading social cues.

No..thats like childish. Just be cool and pretend it didnt happen.

But now u know she doesnt like.u that way. Maybe its not yet, so up to u whether to ask her out again.

But I prefer not to waste time if no chemistry. 1 or maybe 2 date enough already to tell.

nowadays I hold my children hands more when take them out for shopping.

Ini true. deswai I like go hiking last time single. can hold bnyk awek hand when you're experienced

same here

Info from top Klang Valley playboy.

1. Touch arm.

2. Hold hand.

3. Arms around her waist.

4. Touch Boob.

5. Congratulation, you can eat her now.

P/S: Girl 101% is dumb!

This post has been edited by w19: Mar 16 2024, 12:21 AM

i don't think so

There were once I tried to hold because school camp activity need climb here there walk through obstacle, I suppose to hold her just to cross that obstacle, then another obstacle comes after this, and we somehow holding hand the entire activity awkwardly.

Btw we did not progress further from there, either I too dumb to pick up hints or she also contempling, u know sometimes they talk around u about "some guy" duno are they testing your response or really there is such guy, I am assuming there is that guy that's not me... but they could be hinting about me too. In the end of the day only she knows the truth.

sometimes girl usually listen on what their best friend say bout the guy rather then make a own decision

Just try on any girl until reach stage 4 then you give me the answer!

If u feel there's an attraction between both, just sit down and talk about it with her. If she feels the same way u do, then ask if she wants to give this relationship a try. If she's ok, then just hold her hands straightaway. From then onwards, u can hold hands anytime tanpa was-was.

okey then

just look for the body language...

for my case example:

for the first few dates, when we sit beside each other, i notice her body is leaning toward my side, but havent touch each other... during movie also, got lean toward my side abit, but not fully lean ... so eventually during movie that time, i use some lame excuse to grab her hand, and she didnt resist, so ta da... officially can hold her hand liao..

if she is not interested, her body will not lean ( aka trying to be close with you one ), and will keep a distance such as sit upright, wont lean to your direction...

thats my experience lah.

ghost movie with lots of jump scare