Its worse than that, the casual nature of the relationships just means he is devaluing himself subconsciously.

As much as he views others as tools, he himself is also becomes a tool. The value is reflected back upon himself.

As a married man, you know as much as I do. Our partners reflect back our efforts into the relationship, we build the relationship though it is often not easy. The end result is a productive relationship that grows through time, not time wasted.

The analogy I've been giving him, is that he's stuck in the tutorial phase of life and constantly repeating it.

You compare his posts a few years ago and now, there is a huge difference he has yet to acknowledge in himself.

I already predicted his current behaviour, though it will probably take some time before he comes to terms with the cognitive dissonance.

Ultimately, he is seeing how meaningless his pursuit of happiness and lust is. So you'll notice he has become more "philosophical/spiritual" lately. It is his soul's cry for help and search for meaning.

Deep down he knows what needs to be done, but like any addict, he will turn to his addiction to soothe himself rather than do what needs to be done to get out of his pit.

If I see someone eating rotten food, I can predict they will get food poisoning. Its nothing about justification or knowing truth, just an observation of a phenomena.

The path you're on, is just as clear to me as someone eating rotten food. Deep down, you know it too. One day, you will come to see it too.

Yes, which is why nothing you say/do is anything new to me. Its not like I never played the field and even experimented with some of the PUA stuff that was popular at that time, ultimately found it boring and meaningless pretty quick.

I also did it with a different goal/value in mind so the way I treated myself and my partners were abit different.


I say A, you think I'm talking B. You still don't see how limited your perspective is.

Let me try to put it in a way you might understand. Typically, women trade sex for relationship, so people say that women with high body count are "low value" makes sense. Since so many men have tried them and none want to be with her.

Likewise for men, the barometer is how many women are willing to trade sex for a relationship with him. So people like you, want to be a "player" and derive value from the amount of women you can bed. Supposedly giving you higher status. However, its a false signal. Women are not throwing themselves at you for a relationship with you. Its not the same.

Its not like you can go up to any woman you choose, seduce her, bed her and maintain a long term relationship with her. Your value isn't that high, and you know it. You take what you can from the pool that is available to you; which could be vulnerable insecure women, or women just wanting a fling. Neither of which reflect a high value in yourself.

There's a reason why almost every successful man is married, even if they may not always be faithful. At the very least, they are playing the long term relationship game and build the necessary skills to navigate it.

You are avoiding it completely because you fear its results. To make yourself feel better, you'll look down at married couples as problematic, settling, etc. Think about it, do such utterances come out from someone with confidence in their values? or does it stem from a place of insecurity and resentment.

No doubt marriages have their problems, but you would not hear hksgmy talk down on his wife like that, and neither would that AfraidIfIgotBan (can't remember his actual username) even though he supposedly f`ks around while being married.

Flowery and pretty words, but philosophically empty.

The beggar depends on society, hence they beg. So yes, they are lesser. The billionaire got there by providing value to society, hence the wealth accumulated. The ego is a separate conversation from that valuation.

A beggar can just have as much ego and a billionaire, without one.

Becareful on the sophistry path you're on, its headed towards nihilism. Where nothing has meaning, then everything is permitted. Simultaneously, where nothing has meaning you have nothing to anchor yourself and you will be lost; since everything is permitted you'll find a way to justify, and remain forever lost.

You can easily see its effects in the transgender ideology, there's a reason their suicide rate is so high.

Actually, if you read what I'm saying properly instead of using your ego you might actually catch the correct meaning.

To put it simply, i'm not saying smoking/alcohol "must be bad", but telling you the dangers of it and be careful with it. For example, most drunk people will not admit that they're drunk and that's how DUI accidents happen. You are the equivalent of the drunkard now.