Dude.. I can’t live without my wife.. I can’t say it’s the same for her but I think the feeling is mutual..

Lucky man

But makes me wonder why u starting active in this sub forum 😜

Nothing is perfect. There will always be regrets here and there..Even if you stayed single, you will still have regrets....Similarly if you are going to get married there will also be regrets...

Sometimes ppl overanalyzed the "regrets" and thus making the decision to be single...

There is no perfect man or woman out there ....

I thought you were looking for GF 😜

Enjoy your hols.

Get married lah......think of your future and old age.

We humans are designed to be with another person. We are not designed to be alone.

Look for a proper woman with character. Dont look for the visual only.

You dont want to self check in  into an old folks home.

play the game until society collapses

There's no inherent meaning of life
you can choose to play the primary actor, or secondary actor
when the secondary gets the award, does that mean primary actor sucks?

No, it's just a cycle of life

life is supposed to be fun, regardless whether it's casual or serious relationship. All "image" are impermanence

I meet myself whenever im talking to a different female.

does that mean being a beggar is lesser than being a billionaire?
a beggar is servicing himself, he has the willingness to let go of ego
meanwhile, a billionaire has to maintain his ego to look presentable in front of public

whether its let go or maintain
it has no inherent meaning
Its just subjective differentiation

Yes, which is why nothing you say/do is anything new to me. Its not like I never played the field and even experimented with some of the PUA stuff that was popular at that time, ultimately found it boring and meaningless pretty quick.

I also did it with a different goal/value in mind so the way I treated myself and my partners were abit different.
I say A, you think I'm talking B. You still don't see how limited your perspective is.

Let me try to put it in a way you might understand. Typically, women trade sex for relationship, so people say that women with high body count are "low value" makes sense. Since so many men have tried them and none want to be with her.

Likewise for men, the barometer is how many women are willing to trade sex for a relationship with him. So people like you, want to be a "player" and derive value from the amount of women you can bed. Supposedly giving you higher status. However, its a false signal. Women are not throwing themselves at you for a relationship with you. Its not the same.

Its not like you can go up to any woman you choose, seduce her, bed her and maintain a long term relationship with her. Your value isn't that high, and you know it. You take what you can from the pool that is available to you; which could be  vulnerable insecure women, or women just wanting a fling. Neither of which reflect a high value in yourself.

There's a reason why almost every successful man is married, even if they may not always be faithful. At the very least, they are playing the long term relationship game and build the necessary skills to navigate it.

You are avoiding it completely because you fear its results. To make yourself feel better, you'll look down at married couples as problematic, settling, etc. Think about it, do such utterances come out from someone with confidence in their values? or does it stem from a place of insecurity and resentment.

No doubt marriages have their problems, but you would not hear hksgmy talk down on his wife like that, and neither would that AfraidIfIgotBan (can't remember his actual username) even though he supposedly f`ks around while being married.
Flowery and pretty words, but philosophically empty.

The beggar depends on society, hence they beg. So yes, they are lesser. The billionaire got there by providing value to society, hence the wealth accumulated. The ego is a separate conversation from that valuation.

A beggar can just have as much ego and a billionaire, without one.

Becareful on the sophistry path you're on, its headed towards nihilism. Where nothing has meaning, then everything is permitted. Simultaneously, where nothing has meaning you have nothing to anchor yourself and you will be lost; since everything is permitted you'll find a way to justify, and remain forever lost.

You can easily see its effects in the transgender ideology, there's a reason their suicide rate is so high.

I don't see every girls will have sex with me
but i see how my subconscious working and stories thats embedded inside me whenever im aware of obstacles of rejections i encounter
I witness the limitations that my parents and society thats been brainwashing a person

that's the beauty part of it
Its similar like exploring an art or a hobby
and you're trying to take away the essence or the Tao (route) of being an explorer
Its like a parent telling a kid do not touch smoking and drinking because "it must be bad"

93% of communication is non verbals
when it comes to socializing, its not necessarily the most intelligent person will stand out

Life is a game, and you play your script or character to the max
and then someone like silverhawk tries to deny the process
how cruel a parent can become, when a parent insists to be dogma.

Never for me. Having a family completes the whole picture.

Now alot get into marriage because of love and lust.. don't.. remind yourself marriage also involved responsibility, respect, commitment and self discipline. Lose any of those and you see things start crumbling. One have to find balance in all those aspect hence lots of marriage didn't really worked out.

We have been sold a lie. Marriages is not about happiness. I would argue marriage is not a source for happiness. The fact is life is full of suffering and hardship. You get married so that you don't have to go through that hardship alone.

Imagine life's hardship as an ocean and you are floating on it on a raft. You either float in it alone until you die or have a wife and kids on that raft with you. But among yourselves on the raft, you could also have conflicts and disagreements but you are not alone.

imagine two incomplete people come together and usually its the kids that are trained to be incomplete. That's like 98% of human populations mindset

most adults are not capable to raise their children properly because of their bullshit family and social conditioning that hasnt been unwired.

This!

So damn expensive to own apartment now in SG, either rent forever or get married.

HDB flat for PR still expensive for most, this is why some rather live in JB and endure the daily traffic into SG.