I think going to church to try to find a spouse is frankly ridiculous. Firstly you shoule have the right intention to embrace religion. Secondly, unless you’re okay to have a much younger spouse, what are the odds of finding someone around your age and single? Either they also just joined and looking for a spouse (which is unlikely anyway) or well, perhaps you should wonder why he’s single in a place where people literally goes there to look for spouse. The odds are poor. It’s not wrong. Just unlikely. I wouldn’t bank so much hope there.

My suggestion is just to join as many activities as you can. Group exercise like boot camps or specialty hobbies like gardening / camping / hiking and those likes with big group gathering. Also aggressively join your existing social circle, however small it is especially when it’s a group setting. It’s not your friends you’re targeting. It’s your friend’s friend or friends friends friend right. So it’s about expanding your social circle. So need to go out more to meet more.

Finally I’m unsure why there’s a need to describe yourself including your car. People at this age are usually looking for companionship and compatibility. As you are short(er) in time to find and vet them, you need to be clear on what’s non negotiable for you , what’s tolerable and what you’re willing to try to be tolerable. Things like income, kids, family, race, height, weight, habits, character, etc must be very clear from the start. For the same reason, it’s always better to date friends friend as you have referral.

Im also almost 40 and i met my wife through my friend. Bias opinions but hey, it’s one success story there 😆 you can’t be wasting time trying everything. Need to work smart too. Good luck

This post has been edited by PS8805: Jan 31 2024, 11:16 PM