QUOTE(Cubalagi @ Jan 17 2024, 02:02 PM)
Sexless marriage is horrible, something that I hv thought deeply about how to avoid.
I hv put my thoughts down with the below 5 guides.
1. Have a partner that is sexually compatible with you. Meaning libido is about the same. I think one should wait after the "honeymoon period" to determine. Meaning hold off that wedding proposal until after.
The challenge is that libido tend to fall over time, and it will be a problem when it falls at different rates between the couple, which leads to my next points.
2. Practice open and regular communication on sex. Sex shouldnt be a taboo subject or only discussed when its already a problem. It should be a topic couples regularly talk about. With good communication, behaviors and expectations can be adjusted when libido changes.
3. Next couple should agree prenup how important sex is to in the relationship (Ans: Very!) and then commit to minimum standard.(eg at least once a week rain or shine). Pretty easy to agree on if already sexually compatible and have good communication.
4. Couples need to strive to maintain an attractive physique long into the marriage. No excuse for turning into a fat slob. Couples have to encourage and support each other to achieve this.
5. For men, i think there is another one point. The man must continue to "game" the wife. For those who dont know Gaming is the term used to describe the tactics/mindset for a man to get female attraction. I now realize that gaming shouldnt stop when a man gets the girl. It should also extend way into the relationship, and even way into the marriage.
1.Female libido changes according to different cycles
-her age group
-her career changes
-the food intake regularly
-her mood swings
all these are able to affect her testosterone level (which cannot conclude a binary effect taking place)
2. An average Asian male or female usually doesn't talk about sex on first date unless we're in different culture and knows about seduction
3. Prenup if not exactly the amount of sex conducted each week, how much will be fined? How to make an evidence that his wife is rejecting the sexual act in a constant manner
4. wife usually let herself go is due to her husband (primarily) not leading the relationship properly, primarily the cause is financial stress
5. A man doesn't need to overtly or actively demonstrating that he has other options (unless the woman is actively asking to gain reassurance)