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 Sex-less relationship and marriage, Is it a trend now or has it been long?

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post Jan 16 2024, 12:19 PM

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men are women are biologically hardwired to spread to different genes, its nature at its best interest. Throughout history, only 3% of mammals (including human) are truly monogamous

women will also sexually cheat with another guys assuming if her partner is making her feel unsafe or stressful all the times. When a woman is typically stressed, she cannot make herself orgasm easily or willingness to have sex (unless its unreciprocated sexual desire as she had to obey to beta males wish due to him being the sole breadwinner of the family)
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post Jan 16 2024, 03:01 PM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Jan 16 2024, 02:23 PM)
Yeah, my friend told me so too.
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so whats your plan now?
late 30s now and complicated family background?
are you actively meeting other people or girls
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post Jan 16 2024, 03:12 PM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Jan 16 2024, 03:10 PM)
Very active but to not much avail. Most of these girls come from dating apps and with my regular average joe face, can't really get them over.
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no problem
just stick to good fundamentals and practice
you'll slowly have some successes
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post Jan 18 2024, 02:41 AM

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QUOTE(Cubalagi @ Jan 17 2024, 02:02 PM)
Sexless marriage is horrible,  something that I hv thought deeply about how to avoid.

I hv put my thoughts down with the below 5 guides.

1. Have a partner that is sexually compatible with you. Meaning libido is about the same. I think one should wait after the "honeymoon period" to determine. Meaning hold off that wedding proposal until after.

The challenge is that libido tend to fall over time, and it will be a problem when it falls at different rates between the couple, which leads to my next points.

2. Practice open and regular communication on sex. Sex shouldnt be a taboo subject or only discussed when its already a problem. It should be a topic couples regularly talk about. With good communication, behaviors and expectations can be adjusted when libido changes.

3. Next couple should agree prenup how important sex is to in the relationship (Ans: Very!) and then commit to minimum standard.(eg at least once a week rain or shine). Pretty easy to agree on if already sexually compatible and have good communication.

4. Couples need to strive to maintain an attractive physique long into the marriage. No excuse for turning into a fat slob. Couples have to encourage and support each other to achieve this.

5. For men, i think there is another one point. The man must continue to "game" the wife. For those who dont know Gaming is the term used to describe the tactics/mindset for a man to get female attraction. I now realize that gaming shouldnt stop when a man gets the girl. It should also extend way into the relationship, and even way into the marriage.
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1.Female libido changes according to different cycles
-her age group
-her career changes
-the food intake regularly
-her mood swings
all these are able to affect her testosterone level (which cannot conclude a binary effect taking place)

2. An average Asian male or female usually doesn't talk about sex on first date unless we're in different culture and knows about seduction

3. Prenup if not exactly the amount of sex conducted each week, how much will be fined? How to make an evidence that his wife is rejecting the sexual act in a constant manner

4. wife usually let herself go is due to her husband (primarily) not leading the relationship properly, primarily the cause is financial stress

5. A man doesn't need to overtly or actively demonstrating that he has other options (unless the woman is actively asking to gain reassurance)
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post Jan 18 2024, 03:33 PM

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QUOTE(Cubalagi @ Jan 18 2024, 02:48 PM)
Lower income couples tend to have many more children, so I suspect the sexless marriage problem is more common for the higher middle-high income couples.

Probably when the wife earns more than the hubby or about same level, there is a hugher probability that she start to lose attraction for him (hypergamy and all that).
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the thing is when people start chase other goals like hobbies and passion, the fundamental fact is same with ANY physical thing like sex. Its designed to occupy our minds so that we can appear "interesting" to other people, as possible

human beings are still driven by biological factor to survive, the other things that appear are just for show.
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post Jan 18 2024, 03:55 PM

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QUOTE(metaled @ Jan 18 2024, 03:51 PM)
. One of them got offer by wife he can "eat out" as long as come home, no bringing back to home, no overnight, no going raw and every 6 month do STD test.

Society seems to hardwired, with marriage, sex with significant other is accessible all the time.
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Happy wife, Happy life?
one of the cringiest things a beta male can say
If the wife say can eat out
but back end the guy doesnt know whenever the wife can take legal action towards him or not

 

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