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TStatmeng
post Dec 29 2023, 11:55 AM, updated 2y ago

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My father is at hospital now. Don’t think can make it these few days
Hence start to prepare for the funeral.
Already got a burial ground back in hometown. It’s a shared lot with my grandparents and uncles.

Just a matter to go through the rites and bring back to hometown.
Plan to have the funeral service in KL before, cremate and bring back the ashes to hometown

How to kickstart the whole thing? Either Taoist or Buddhist rite. Likely Taoist.

The funeral shop will approach the family?

Any tip is appreciated. Thank you
TStatmeng
post Dec 29 2023, 05:47 PM

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Thanks everyone for the advice and tips. Spoken with my mother. Prefer Buddhist rite as simpler and not many bilibala things.
Will do it at funeral parlour as my house rather small and neighbours all malays. Best don’t disturb neighbours and I also don’t like many people come to my house.

Ok basically will wait for the funeral parlours people to approach me.
Now I will focus taking care of the livings, like my mother. Rather much I can do for my father already. Can let my siblings take care of him.

I’ve done my best
TStatmeng
post Dec 29 2023, 10:48 PM

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QUOTE(nelson969 @ Dec 29 2023, 09:15 PM)
dont ask here ,Contact nirvana
sorry for your loss.
I assume u have very big role on this, u need spread the news widely to your social circle , provide closure , settle inheritance issue and so on.
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Thanks. Yea kinda already discussed with my siblings high level how to run it but still depends on me.
Not much inheritance. Just want to make sure he doesn’t have any financial products under his own name. So far all joint owned with my bro and I don’t have any intend to get the that money.
Just trying to contact his old friends and let them know that he is at his final stage
TStatmeng
post Dec 30 2023, 09:53 AM

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QUOTE(pipedream @ Dec 30 2023, 08:37 AM)
just a tip bro, withdraw all the savings from your dads account ASAP, if not u will need to go through a lot of bili bala to withdraw it eg proof of inheritance la etc etc
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Ya have been asking my siblings whether my dad has any financial products under his own name

Anyway, just to update
My dad has passed away this morning.
I have contacted Xiao en and nirvana.
Nirvana very quick service, send their agent over to hospital now to talk to me directly
TStatmeng
post Dec 30 2023, 10:13 AM

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QUOTE(hteekay @ Dec 30 2023, 09:54 AM)
Sorry to hear that bro.. may he rest in peace.
condolences to you and your family
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Thanks bro. It’s a relieve to him. Twice he told me he want to give already
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post Dec 30 2023, 09:10 PM

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QUOTE(Cincai lar @ Dec 30 2023, 12:40 PM)
got cars under his name ??.. got share stocks under his name ??.. got left any will ??... doesn't matter big money or small money,.. if no will,..Gov will gasak,..
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No will. Should be no more stocks under his name. Got one old Wira. I totally forget about it since he didn’t drive it for few months alr. Already tyre pamcit and here there broken. Got ppl put notice there to call if want to sell.
Plan to sell it as junk and show the guy the death certificate.
The purpose is more to dispose the car than leave there to rot.

Anyway, just to update here for knowledge sharing
Basically engaged nirvana. Really one dragon service including runner to get death cert from JPN.
No need police report since passed away at hospital.
The agent has explained everything and give options including the casket, urn and sau yi (longevity clothes). He also shared the rites which I’m not aware.
Also got traditional rite and modern rite which is simpler.

All these give comfort to my mum that everything is in good hands

This post has been edited by tatmeng: Dec 30 2023, 09:11 PM
TStatmeng
post Feb 6 2024, 06:37 AM

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QUOTE(Mano6656 @ Feb 6 2024, 02:59 AM)
I'm sorry about your dad. Planning a funeral is tough, especially when you're feeling so sad. When my family had to do it, we started by finding a funeral home that knew about Taoist or Buddhist ways because they helped us understand what we needed to do, like the ceremony, burning, and then taking the ashes back home. They can put everything you need into one package, making things easier.
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Thanks. Nirvana arranged everything and guide us through the rites.

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post Feb 6 2024, 07:36 AM

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QUOTE(MakNok @ Feb 6 2024, 07:28 AM)
My Dad just pass away 30Jan2024 at home while i was driving back to see him after getting a call.
Small town hard to get Ambulan and i have to make call to my hometown schoolmate doctor who open a clinic there.

Kudo to him for getting a "government medical officer" to come to my house to check and certified the death as natural cause aka old age.

That medical officer is from Bomba division will then use the ECG result with his Chop indicate the time of my Dad passing...and also reported to Police Station as well.

Once i reach home, i must immediately report my Dad passing to the Police Station where all necessary documention will be given out.
According to Police, if my Dad got buy insurance......Autopsy is a must at hospital.

Once get all necessary documentation, find Funeral Caretaker...
My Dad package for simplest possible 3Day 2Night also cost RM18k lo
And for food is RM1,870.

During 2019, when my Mum pass away, that Police Report can be kawtim by Funeral Caretaker but now, must be done personally by family member...

Funeral caretaker will also guide you to make a report your Dad demise at JPN and you will get  Death Certificate after 30min estd.
But before doing that, do try to clear whatever bank account under your Dad name before reporting officialy at JPN.

Just done 7th Day yesterday....then 49th Day....100th Day and 1 year.
My Dad package actually including "advance praying up to 49days" which was conducted the day where urn with ashes place at Siam Wat Temple.
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Thanks for sharing. I think the is kind of info is useful

TStatmeng
post Feb 6 2024, 06:54 PM

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QUOTE(tkwmm @ Feb 6 2024, 03:41 PM)
Hmmm, my grandpa cost is RM80K lol. Btw, the service is so suck.

Sifu late coming, say come next day, then come 2 day later. Table / waters / chair fans not enough, when ask for more, charge sibeh overprice. (End up we rent extra chair table fans from nearby restaurant with 400% less price).

The one that I satisfy is the doc efficiency. Come and confirm death, give death cert. All settle within a days. (Doc not from funeral agency)

Conclusion: Funeral is easy money earning for some business.

Also, Sorry for your loss TS.
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Thanks. Why so expensive? Mine slightly more than 40k and this is because we add in catering and meal after cremation

Anwyay glad that the funeral company take care everything. Otherwise sure collapse in lethargic
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post Feb 6 2024, 07:00 PM

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QUOTE(MakNok @ Feb 6 2024, 01:38 PM)
Update......make sure your Dad have no money at any bank....
My Dad bank all kena block liao.
So money stuck inside...
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We cannot find his passbook. So don’t know how much he has. Should be not much.
As for his financial products with Public Bank, all under joint account with my bro.
Now left his old Wira. Don’t think can sell as second hand car since I am not the onwner. The most is sell as scrap.
Anyway, we were told not to move any of his belongings until after 49 days.
So his room and things basically untouched.

 

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