Let's share about the moment your partner make you feel like it's the last straw

No allow daily piap

How many couple can actually archive daily piap hahaha

her nagging of problems which i am aware and cant resolve

And they can't give solution also ? hahaha

yes

gossip
constantly share about negative things about herself or esp towards the partner
Its fine to hear someone whining
but if thing doesnt improve over time
nobody can withstand the bad vibe

This. Complain but no solution.

have to bit the bullet and carry on.
we chose this spouse, so gotta live with this mistake for the rest of our lives.

When her friends become more important than you.

What kind of event so bad that you feel it's the last straw? I'd imagine it's common to go out or help friends, sometimes sacrificing a dating session....

Less likely when dating, more when already married.

In relationship there will be lots of priorities, often competing: Children, Parents, Husband/Wife, Career, Friends

Etc. which requires managing and compromises.

When spouse falls below friends in order of priority regularly, that should be the last straw.

U agree?

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Oct 27 2023, 04:52 PM

Totally agree! It's really frustrated to be in situation like this ...

byk kuat can piap everyday

Sharing private stuff to his brothers.

Ah yeah, the compromise/sacrifices...

Children: many parents forget their roles as husband and wife as they fully focus on their children.
Parents: especially in conflicts with in-laws, when your spouse chooses to side with his/her own family even when it's unreasonable, really frustrating.
Career: I can see how this will be a common problem, just by watching my colleagues. Workaholics in general, or when one focuses too much on career advancement or simply too much workload... Family time is often sacrificed. On a daily basis, someone has to work arrange kids' daycare transportation, meal and whatnot, and if job gets in the way, the other has to adjust. Worst is, if the job require relocation, then whole family has to follow...

But friends... Hmmm just by hanging out with her own friends should be fine, think of it as her me-time lor....as long as she doesn't neglect her family time. If she's gone overboard, then I'd say it's her own problem with time allocation, just like how excessive gaming or socmeds are also bad, but I wouldn't blame the friends...
... Unless, if the friends are toxic, it can be really damaging if they try to stir shit up by badmouthing you.

Back to you... What did your spouse do for you to feel it's the last straw? I'm sure it's not a one-time thing, usually these frustrations built up over time .. 👀

What kind of private stuff we are talking about ?

Lol, just choose a woman who has her own opinions but not overly feminist. If you marry a woman who always listens to peer and bow to family pressures you're waiting for disasters

Not much issue will come out on dating period. Marriage will bring a lot of things out.

Piap will be the last most last agenda as women will loose it for a few years when its decided no more child, but this is highly case by case.

I would say the couple's parents.

Wait, i need to ask my parent first. Do we send our child here, there, this place that school....

The other half might answer not sure, without any further reasoning/arguement, you know its a cue to need to ask the parents first. During arguement or fights, also have to ask parents first see their opinion. I see this happening more with women.

Other then that, it is partner spending too much time focusing on the child, there is no wrong to this, but as a partner husband and wife, still need to continue to focus on each other for the relationship to remain healthy.

Feminism i see is slowly creeping up on younger couple. Could be still young naively thinking marriage is like China/Korean TV series.

Whatever happens, both have to bite the bullets and find a way to make it work.

Unhealthy method is switch it off and focus on work, but remember Happy Wife Happy Lives. Sacrifice a bit for the sanity of mind, thats is how i see the unker age kolik deal with this.

More Income=Less Family Time.

It is about what you 2 think and the direction you 2 one for your own family, not because want to satisfy people's opinion especially immediate family member's, or make decision because family pressure.

True that its not just one event. Its multiple incidents over the years, which made me feel Im low on her priority. Even her friends were more improtant than me. On the other hand, I always priotize her I felt.

We got into arguments, but no lasting solutions. Finally, I started treating her close to the way she treated me. Things deteriorated even further after that and we ended up divorced.

I rather not go into specifics, not nice memories to bring up

Im at peace and have moved on.