hi TS as a married man with kids and speaking with other married people with kids especially those who are already married or been together for 20 years or more.

do you want kids?

if the answers is No, then don't get married.

do you feel strong emotional bonds and can really click with your spouse and share many common interest

if you don't share some strong common interest after 20 years of marriage, both of you are just staying for the sake of the kids and are emotionally unhappy


it seems that you don't really have a strong emotional connection or bond with your current partner or even precious partners.

why is something you must ask yourself. you seems to be looking for something or someone that is missing in your life. could you be ghey?

just to make sure you are honest with yourself