Hey all just wanna get some opinion regarding marriage or how does one know if they are ready to tie the knot..my story is below will summarise it to the best I can

I'm a 33 year old dude and I'm currently dating a 30 year old lady..we met on a dating app early last year and have been in a serious relationship for about 1 year now..last month when we are hanging out and talking, the topic of marriage came out..she asked me what is my plan and when do I want to settle down.

Now this marriage topic has been a big problem for me. Previously in my last two relationships whenever this topic comes out and my answer was I don't know, the relationship goes downhill from there. The girl will be like I'm wasting her time and you get the drift..

Now with my current relationship, I'm trying to be more tactful. So I told her I want to get married but I just don't know when like I'm not sure of the timeline. I think she was not happy with my answer and she started saying things like so why are u with me? Don't u feel we are wasting time? Bla bla bla..then she said she needs to rethink about our current relationship and giving me a cold treatment now.

Why does everything have to be about marriage for women? We had a good time together as a couple, we talked, we hangout, we are there for one another and yet that is not enough? Only marriage dictates happiness? I have been having a hard time to address this marriage topic whenever I'm with someone..I just don't know when I will be ready so does that mean I shouldn't date anybody? Is it my fault? Just help a brother out on this? Totally lost on what to do..

This post has been edited by GambitFire: Aug 28 2023, 09:55 AM

Hi all sorry I've been MIA for awhile..alot of shit has been happening.. just to provide some update, me and the girl that I mentioned we eventually ended things end of Feb this year.. she invited me to meet her parents and family during CNY but I didn't attend cause I know her parents are gonna ask me about marriage and I didn't want to deal with that

My ex got furious and we had a huge argument and decided to end things..I think it ended pretty badly cause she blocked me on all social media even on WhatsApp lol..even her friends that I use to talk too kinda unfollowed me on IG as well so owh well what's done is done.

Second update, early April, one of her friends suddenly DM me on IG asking how are things and she felt bad that we broke up..so we have been talking for about two weeks now like on and off..this girl is a year older than me so she is 35.. I'm not sure what her intentions are but is it wrong for me to get to know her since she is my ex friend? Is it weird? And yes I'm still unsure about marriage also..so many dilemmas in my relationship feels like a roller coaster.