Recently met a girl through bumble and we both managed to get and follow each others Insta.

We chatted for like near to a week and also knew that she never been through a relationship before just like me. She started telling me that how both of us can be a good fit in a relationship since both of us have never been through a relationship before.

We also have planned to meet up at X place for a date and she agrees to do so.

As time goes by i started noticing the conversation was getting dryer each time when i initiate. She started replying in a single to full sentence word everytime when i chat with her.

Started yesterday since morning was chatting with her halfway through out of a sudden she never replies or even care to seen my messages anymore till now. But the weird thing is she still watches my insta stories.

Kinda feeling sad and disappointed with myself right now not knowing what i really did wrong 😢

nothing you did wrong, she just wasn't feeling it
for insta stories dont take it personally, people just scroll pass real quick, doesn't mean anything if she watches it

just move on to others

She probably seeing someone else

Busy layan Other dude message

Tough world we live in

Anyway dont be so upset

I personally dated a few live interest online

All of them never work

Some of the reason:

- Red flag personality/traits/behavior that didnt rhyme with me
- Girl even taller than me
- No feeling of chemistry/good vibe between her and me
- Theres no common interest or history between us

I guess u feel that way because you are the one being ghosted. If you are the one doing it, the girl will feel the same suffering.

This post has been edited by max_cavalera: Jul 26 2023, 04:13 AM

can't help it if she isn't feeling it.

the more you hold onto it, the more it wants freedom.

so let go, maybe it will come back to you one day once she has made up her mind. if she doesn't, you have the answer too.


at your age, don't be fixated on one girl. try to know as many girls as friends first, don't rush into relationship.

why people these days rush into relationship and not trying to get to know people as friends first?

I'll give you a serious answer. Here are some reasons why she ghosted you

- She wasn't feeling it with you anymore
- She was bored and just wanted someone to talk to
- She found someone better to talk to
- No reason she just decided to stop talking

This is the reality of dating apps. I've used them for many years now, and probably went out 60-70+ dates at this point. Many times I ghost people for no reason either.

TLDR - Don't go overthink and go find someone else to talk to. You're gonna get ghosted more, and one day you'll do the same too (or you already have perhaps)

This post has been edited by trojandude: Jul 26 2023, 05:34 AM

God damn… How u managed to go for so many dates and don feel fed up…

I was young and wasn't dating with expectation that's why

Looks like she find that you no longer in her interest, move on, find another mate

its a 2 way thing

You shouldn't be telling all your grandfather stories via online chat, that kills attraction and save the conversation only when you meet her in person. Always keep the conversation light & fun.

So many guys I see when they are attracted to a girl they start to act weak, insecure and sticky. Nobody likes that.

Chill dude, sometime its not about u.

I encountered and did the same thing too. When I was in university, I got ghosted too. We were tight, went to movie and play games together, even skip classes together, but suddenly one day she ghosted me, and we never talk ever since up till now. We are not even friends on facebook or follow each other on IG, its just like we are strangers, and to date I still don't know the reason why.

Also, I did the same thing too when i was working. I was messaging my female friend, we were tight. We always call and text each other, share our gym and fitness progress, but at the same time I was seeing another girl, and one day it just hit me off that I'm in love with the other girl and I just doesn't feel like messaging my female friend anymore.

As for the insta stories, most people just scroll by without even watching it.

So just chill, don't think so much and move on.

she is a double agent meaning - she is seeing u and seeing others la ~

just move on. treat it as if ure test driving a car. sometimes the car quality is terrible so u dont want to buy it. sometimes the car quality is excellent but ur pocket is not deep enough to buy it. but if u look around hard enough, some day, ull meet the perfect car for u

btw im just giving an analogy, in no way im objectifying women here.

Update: This morning she sends me a good morning message but completely ignores my message which I have send to her since yesterday morning which is kinda weird

at young age normal lah

i used to date 6-7 girls, all at the same time

once when i hit off with one of them only then i consider as girlfriend

send her some ricardo milos vids

Try your luck to ask her out

If negative response, just move away

I've had met up 259+ females at this point over almost 10 years of semi professional dating. I used to meet 4 different females per day from morning until 11pm like that. There are some people i know that have hit over 1000 different girls meeting

the thing is once you have experiences you'll view every girl as a sample to get better socially, ie what you can do better at each or end point of the interaction(s) along with the correct mindset to become abundant sea king

from there, you'll care lesser and have stable mood, any more reactions from the girls will not affect you because you knew what you wanted its very focused once you internalise the things you've done over and over

problem when knowing someone from dating app

she probably matched someone else more interesting

If she ghost so be it. For me I never ghost. I just text them I dont think we vibe and wish her good luck and move on.

you must be running your own biz and doing it very well to have time to see so many women

what was your bedminton success rate

am sure the guys here want to know and learn from master like you

minimally 30-50% success rate of all the girls with just personalities
you could technically reach above 50% assuming you've got your looks or logistics sorted out, provided with lucks

girls who are (some characteristics)
-younger than age 25
-divorce single mom (esp if they're more mature and have their own place)
-travel far to here and stay alone
-have had encounters with whites before
-often travel to work ie stewardess
(In short, look for cues like when a girl shit tests you A LOT, she has been with a lot of guys or could be having disorder)

there's also huge difference when you've property under ie mix development where there's a shopping mall under it (versus typically we drive quite far away to meet a girl), after finishing a coffee or dinner you can just ask her come up to your place

time management can be a thing if you want to be efficient, esp kl traffic jam is horrible

Once you've had achieved the number of lays you desire (along with the techniques, mindsets) you may start to slow down and start seeing some girls for more than months and build your relationship from there

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Jul 27 2023, 11:50 AM

TS, it's normal if you already felt your conversations got dry after sometime, so does she, so she moved on. You should too.

there was once i did the whatsapp migration from old phone to new phone, any conversation in between during migration went missing.

i didnt bother to find out what was the missing conversation.

there are also occasions where i replied half way to someone and was to send more messages, but then i forgot about it due to some distractions

later more messages came in from others, and that person's conversations was pushed down further. So i totally forgot about it.

a few hours or sometimes a few days later, the person asked me about it, then only i remember

so many possibilities la...

This post has been edited by Blofeld: Jul 27 2023, 01:24 PM

was and still curious how u approach them, been trying to do the same but not sure how to start, true with that abundance mindset, girls dont like needy males

im not having issues interacting with females, but at the same time dont know how to ask them out

girls r like this, not to mean, but if ur not having wealth, body, house, cars etc, online dating is harder than f2f dating, online dating cant do shit apart from seeing the word typed, hard to get clues, f2f at least u can sense things when u guys are together and can make proper judgement

you have to read between the lines of what they're writing on the messages, that may take you awhile to realize that. You can rely on the indicator of interest shown to you, however if you do not understand yourself truly, you'll still send out stupid messages that dont serve any purpose

get the girl out asap
at least you've a small window to present your quality
a lot of guys have a wrong mindset that they need to make certain of money or lifestyle or good looks, before they are able to date

like who gives permission, other than themselves

Bumble? Then most probably you're not the only one who's chatting her up.

Just send her one last text to ask her if she's still interested to continue.

If no reply, don't text her anymore. Man the hell up and move the fcuk on... and when you have, show it to her face on your Insta.

Whatever you do, don't beg or appear needy. That is a death sentence for guys in the dating scene as girls spit on guys who are desperate.

I am wondering if you always bump into the girls/woman you have met when you hangout in shopping mall.....

ive bump into girls who semi rejected me on bed.
i just smile and sometimes they might text me back and ask me who's my friend with me particularly if she's more attractive than the target

one word........."GENG"

wana ask your opinion..

have you ever match those girls who has this kind of mindset " online dating full of scams and park boys, so i have to be careful and take it slow bla bla " ?? For this kind of girl, do you still minimize texting and try to meet up immediately? basically refering to the quote. Or when woman thinks that both side are having good conversation, or can clique, "take it slow " doesnt apply... hope you get what i mean..

those ie like newly divorced female have very strong feeling or hatred towards men, it can be a headache dealing with long term as they always ask for reassurance.

But it depends how much you like her, as long as she still replies to you just keep your minimal texting and if one day suddenly of any reason something about you spiked her immediate interest she will have urge to meet up with you

i think i asked out one girl who has had a bf more than 7 times in 1.5 years after matched her

just keep on texting different girls

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Aug 2 2023, 09:28 PM

For these criterion/standards, every guy or girls has his/her own sets of minimum requirement of "dateable" partner....
In my opinion, to have a higher success rate, the key point is to acknowledge your own value in each criterion before making a move....

she probably found a better fish she is more interested in. Just move on.

meet up as soon as possible, the chance decreases more the longer you drag, what's stopping you from seeing her at this "X" place?

All the advice seem to be very nice.

However nice advice wont make you grow as a man.

Its just a bunch of koolaide trying to take care of your broken heart feeling.

Kinda like among female friends where they fake sugarcoat compliment and take care of each other feelings.

You will never improve from that.

Reality my friend. Is much more bitter. Especially for online dating:



Your friend just met a smoking hot muscular Chad/Tyrone and getting run through…



Ill keep it simple. Interaction between man and women. If women are not attracted to you sexually. Shes gonna friendzone you. If you meet her and shes actually a landwhale, and theres no sexual attraction for you in her. Your gonna friendzone her.

How do you increase your chance to be sexually attractive. Its exactly the same how men attracted to the girls at first goance. The body.

So, gym up. Bulk your muscle up. Its not a sprint race. Its a marathon. Make it your routine. Minimum twice weightlifting weekly.

when she greenlight to meet
u gotta do it quickly
curious girls want action quickly
and there are many "abang" tat pandai ayat will get her to go out
once she makes a connection with another guy you're in the friendzone or phantomzone oredi

next pls