Recently met a girl through bumble and we both managed to get and follow each others Insta.

We chatted for like near to a week and also knew that she never been through a relationship before just like me. She started telling me that how both of us can be a good fit in a relationship since both of us have never been through a relationship before.

We also have planned to meet up at X place for a date and she agrees to do so.

As time goes by i started noticing the conversation was getting dryer each time when i initiate. She started replying in a single to full sentence word everytime when i chat with her.

Started yesterday since morning was chatting with her halfway through out of a sudden she never replies or even care to seen my messages anymore till now. But the weird thing is she still watches my insta stories.

Kinda feeling sad and disappointed with myself right now not knowing what i really did wrong 😢

nothing you did wrong, she just wasn't feeling it
for insta stories dont take it personally, people just scroll pass real quick, doesn't mean anything if she watches it

just move on to others

She probably seeing someone else

Busy layan Other dude message

Tough world we live in

Anyway dont be so upset

I personally dated a few live interest online

All of them never work

Some of the reason:

- Red flag personality/traits/behavior that didnt rhyme with me
- Girl even taller than me
- No feeling of chemistry/good vibe between her and me
- Theres no common interest or history between us

I guess u feel that way because you are the one being ghosted. If you are the one doing it, the girl will feel the same suffering.

This post has been edited by max_cavalera: Jul 26 2023, 04:13 AM

can't help it if she isn't feeling it.

the more you hold onto it, the more it wants freedom.

so let go, maybe it will come back to you one day once she has made up her mind. if she doesn't, you have the answer too.


at your age, don't be fixated on one girl. try to know as many girls as friends first, don't rush into relationship.

why people these days rush into relationship and not trying to get to know people as friends first?

I'll give you a serious answer. Here are some reasons why she ghosted you

- She wasn't feeling it with you anymore
- She was bored and just wanted someone to talk to
- She found someone better to talk to
- No reason she just decided to stop talking

This is the reality of dating apps. I've used them for many years now, and probably went out 60-70+ dates at this point. Many times I ghost people for no reason either.

TLDR - Don't go overthink and go find someone else to talk to. You're gonna get ghosted more, and one day you'll do the same too (or you already have perhaps)

This post has been edited by trojandude: Jul 26 2023, 05:34 AM

God damn… How u managed to go for so many dates and don feel fed up…

I was young and wasn't dating with expectation that's why

Looks like she find that you no longer in her interest, move on, find another mate

its a 2 way thing

You shouldn't be telling all your grandfather stories via online chat, that kills attraction and save the conversation only when you meet her in person. Always keep the conversation light & fun.

So many guys I see when they are attracted to a girl they start to act weak, insecure and sticky. Nobody likes that.

Chill dude, sometime its not about u.

I encountered and did the same thing too. When I was in university, I got ghosted too. We were tight, went to movie and play games together, even skip classes together, but suddenly one day she ghosted me, and we never talk ever since up till now. We are not even friends on facebook or follow each other on IG, its just like we are strangers, and to date I still don't know the reason why.

Also, I did the same thing too when i was working. I was messaging my female friend, we were tight. We always call and text each other, share our gym and fitness progress, but at the same time I was seeing another girl, and one day it just hit me off that I'm in love with the other girl and I just doesn't feel like messaging my female friend anymore.

As for the insta stories, most people just scroll by without even watching it.

So just chill, don't think so much and move on.

she is a double agent meaning - she is seeing u and seeing others la ~

just move on. treat it as if ure test driving a car. sometimes the car quality is terrible so u dont want to buy it. sometimes the car quality is excellent but ur pocket is not deep enough to buy it. but if u look around hard enough, some day, ull meet the perfect car for u

btw im just giving an analogy, in no way im objectifying women here.

Update: This morning she sends me a good morning message but completely ignores my message which I have send to her since yesterday morning which is kinda weird

at young age normal lah

i used to date 6-7 girls, all at the same time

once when i hit off with one of them only then i consider as girlfriend

send her some ricardo milos vids

Try your luck to ask her out

If negative response, just move away

I've had met up 259+ females at this point over almost 10 years of semi professional dating. I used to meet 4 different females per day from morning until 11pm like that. There are some people i know that have hit over 1000 different girls meeting

the thing is once you have experiences you'll view every girl as a sample to get better socially, ie what you can do better at each or end point of the interaction(s) along with the correct mindset to become abundant sea king

from there, you'll care lesser and have stable mood, any more reactions from the girls will not affect you because you knew what you wanted its very focused once you internalise the things you've done over and over

problem when knowing someone from dating app

she probably matched someone else more interesting

If she ghost so be it. For me I never ghost. I just text them I dont think we vibe and wish her good luck and move on.