from your husband perspective though, you have to understand that his mom is the one that has been there and caring for him since he's small.. so need to be patient and compromise a bit.. there's this saying, you don't only marry your partner, you marry the whole family.. but at the same time your husband must also defend you because you're his partner.. just that he needs to be a bit tactful.. like my mom and fiance also dont really get along well, but i told my fiance, understand my mom can be a bit annoying, just be patient and compromise for a while only while meeting her.. because in the end, we don't always gonna meet her since i already bought house far away from my parents