share my experience, to be frank, i rarely see gold digger in real life, maybe i dont mingle with people who drink.

And some girls that i friend with, they told me that, a good man as in treat gf good, can cook, spend time with partner etc. Yes, all these traits are things that most girls always say they want. But in the end, it is just added point.

The kind of points that can be added if you have a acceptable look, height and good humor.

I was enlightened that i know why i lost out in dating market. I can't even meet the minimum requirement of look and/or charm. Lol

it applies to both genders in my opinion and i agree with your female colleagues and friends. Either you lower your expectation to C grade look girls (or even lower) and hope that someone may be ok with you. Other way is, improve your charisma as in the way you speak, interesting common topic to share. Something like use charisma to cover the lacking part of look. Of coz, you may get lucky to know some girls who look great and accept you.

Otherwise, if can't, may just end up like me, look and charisma also lacking, but can't lower my expectation from A, B grade look girls. I know i will be single till my death, i am not happy about single life, but i still not going to change (stubborn and as what your female colleagues and friends said: "can't get pass the exterior requirement, dont talk about long term life together"). Not to mention, age matter also affect on guy, option is not that much open compared to girls. Girls who are 10 years younger than me saying i am too old for them. And money is not an issue. As i said, I haven't really see a gold digger yet in my life.

This post has been edited by gundamsp01: Feb 4 2023, 07:00 PM

what i think about myself is has no meaning when the opposite sex doesn't think the same way.
You mean improve on my look/charisma? look wise, can't really improve, ugly is ugly, only thing is making myself look ok level, but that is not enough apparently. Charisma wise, nah, hard to change personality.
inner beauty means jack shit nowadays, if inner beauty is that important, there wouldn't be so many girls complain about their "bad" bf out there.

This post has been edited by gundamsp01: Feb 9 2023, 08:13 AM

so far none, besides, my circle is small, as i only talk to colleagues, hence didn't think much about it.

lol, but getting old (mid 30s), tried abit of dating app, didn't get any match, so i think it is sort of true?

i would say chicken and egg situation. Anyway, all the best to you with the right positive mindset!

i am getting rejected just based on age so far, i dont know, we are living in different world.