Just wanted to weigh in on this topic from another perspective, not trying to brag or anything.

I am lucky to be able to work 8hrs, earn a good amount and spend the rest of my time doing things I like. This has allowed me to be "interesting", fit, dress well. I am also tall but thats just genetics. Wouldnt consider myself the best looking guy, but decent enough.

There are studies which say in online dating (OLD), the top 10% men get 60-80% of all matches. From my experience OLD is easy, I could get 15-20 matches a week from swiping casually. I am even making it harder for myself by only going for non-asian girls (ive posted my matches previously on the forum) and the stats remain the same. So much for Asian guys not being desired eh.

For myself the negative aspect is that there are too many options, hence the need to keep wanting to explore for someone higher up the value chain. Which is pretty toxic tbh.

Hmm, how long term will it be if this continues?

Well, my question on this is will you be able to invest emotionally in this since you said both of you are free to find whoever else. Which means, she maybe having weird flings outside and you have your own flings so will you be able to emotionally commit to a lady who is flinging outside?

Well I agree SD SB type but if you want to invest emotionally later on, what would you perceive this matter to be? Will you want her to be your exclusive?

I was also in a SD/SB relationship previously soon after my divorce. I wasnt in the mood for any serious relationship but wanted a SYT for company and do Bf and gf things.

She was 20+ years younger than me but very mature. Our relationship was more like a FWB. We were free to date other people but not allowed to have any other SB/SD.

Our arrangement lasted more than a year, then we mutually agreed to end it, very amicably. We are still friends and keep in touch. She now has a BF of abt her age and is getting married. Im even invited for her wedding, which I will be attending with my GF.

Well, sorry to hear that but you might be at the losing end if she really isn't exclusive to you AND if you wanna start like "I wanna date you for real", she might say no.

In a way, my SB sort of rescued me from the despair of a divorce and then moving forward. So Im thankful to her and am quite fond of her. But during our time together, I knew my SB was not "the one". The chemistry wasnt fully there.

Very different from my GF, whom I met later. This one was fireworks.

As to how much..not that much. Much cheaper than my ex wife.