Totally agree with u on this part. I wouldn't wanna date someone who's been married b4. Yes, he may have divorced his wife but complications may arise in future which might affect my rship with him. Better be safe than sorry.

I've tried going on dates or approaching stranger girls purposely dress out of my league myself (smarter), most people have a longer lasting impression when initially meeting each other.

If you couldnt change your look, you must change your fashion immediately. You can buy some time for a girl willing to respond to you

I like the way you think.
Men who cooks and clean get the upper hand anytime! At least in my books

lol, but getting old (mid 30s), tried abit of dating app, didn't get any match, so i think it is sort of true?

i am getting rejected just based on age so far, i dont know, we are living in different world.

Then how did you manage to date girls in 20s and 30s if they are not from dating apps??
Through your own social network??
I am just curious....

It goes back to the two things TS mentioned.....Look and Money...

A friend can't be a person to share feelings, stuffs with each other everyday. If I had a female friend who I can share everything with and she shares with me everything, that's gonna go somewhere else.

Or TS could subscribe to dodgy philosophy like some here and just work on TS’ smooth operator skills, to heck with either looks or money….
… according to some, that is sure win method?

Hehe. Life is very, shall I say, materialistic…. At the end of the day, when all is said and done, money talks and you know what walks.

No certain outcome in the game of life or love, but advantages can be stacked in favour of those with the resources.

A wealthier person has the ability to draw upon his internal confidence - if he made it via his work, business or investment, he can use those same lessons to make it elsewhere - hence the saying success breeds success and money makes more money.

Personally I find it distasteful because it takes away the meritocratic element of fairness, but you only need to look at real life where the datuks and the tan sris strutting about with their trophy wives or girlfriends to know that, sadly, this is how the real world works.

I don’t like it, I don’t think it’s inherently fair and I still believe that hard work and character should account for something, but I fear that is just my wishful and wistful thinking.

What do you think?

It matters very little to me, my financial instinct wanted me to buy the cheapest car, yet I bought an expensive one for no reason other than impressing ladies. I’ve got zero roi for this investment

Turning 29 so I’m clearly out of option, had to resort to the materialistic tactic

I fit in the description of beta male, and short. But it is more of an overall of how I carry myself, cannot be easily described. Girls can detect one, you ask them to describe why this male is inferior they also can’t describe.

Or a sense of security… God knows what makes a woman tick sometimes…

Anyways, for 3 weeks now I have been officially dating my new gf so I am happy.

.... Is that not the same for men? What you say is true to me as I've said it before: it's arrogant to think you deserve a perfect one when you'll never the perfect yourself, so find someone whose bullshit you can endure, and s/he who can endure yours... And I don't see how that doesn't apply to both genders.

Right now our agreement is exclusive SD SB, so far im going around still. not sure about her, choosing to trust her though. Like bf gf seldom check and assume she is loyal kind

How was your experience, do you miss the time with her etc? How much were u giving her

Newbie question… SB is? SD is?

Thank you in advance