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Takudan
post Nov 10 2022, 12:12 AM

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To be clear, "first date" these days can mean very differently depending on how you get to know the other.

If you meet this person from online dating app, first date is really part of getting to know A STRANGER.
If you're already a long time acquaintance e.g. friend from school/work/social group, then you go on first date with the awareness that both of you are probably interested in each other already.

Some might argue with me on the semantics but I'll just say both are correct to me, so it boils down to context/additional information.

So yeah, IMO if you wanna set a good impression as a long term partner, it doesn't hurt to give the lady (too much) space, but let your intention be known so she doesn't friend zone you ever. If she's really that hungry for your touch, she would have dropped atomic bomb of hints.
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post Nov 10 2022, 01:32 PM

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QUOTE(Blofeld @ Nov 10 2022, 12:36 AM)
i find it easier to get touchy touchy with women i knew from online dating app on first dates compared to known friends that I have dated.

because those who are on online dating app already have the intention to form a relationship
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On the other hand, a few of my friends have complained that some guys were too touchy/pushy early on, they decided to not continue because of that 😅 then again, my circle of friends tend to be on the introvert + conservative side, some also have trouble being direct...

Have the intention to form a relationship, sure, but on early dates, it's still unknown whether that person will be you ma... But I can also understand the other way to see this: just be bold and if shit doesn't work, you'll never see each other anyway lol
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post Dec 28 2022, 03:32 PM

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QUOTE(SGSuser @ Dec 28 2022, 01:25 PM)
Actually I didnt have much choice because she's from other state, only coming to kl with her mum for christmas and new year...that's why can only arrange around this time

we do click a lot in our chats, i even check up on her when she worked part time until very late and she still replied rather than ignoring me, sometimes we do talk personal issues although when i touch on relationship stuff she's rather evasive...just very disappointed that she's here for 1 week+ yet couldn't even spare some time for me, perhaps im really that unimportant, just a classmate hi and bye after graduation
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Aha... Don't get carried away there my brudder. When I had a strong crush for a guy, we texted each other a lot. Had deep conversations. He'd reply me even in the middle of the nights.
Turned out he's just a really nice guy who's a little nocturnal, and he only treated me as a really good friend..

People can write a lot in text, but don't extrapolate on their intentions... If you really have such strong interest for her and you want to do a one last try, go all out and plan a solo trip to where she lives and tell her about your plan. If she agrees then proceed to book your own stay, and stick to the plan. If she bails last minute, OR rejects you outright, or just won't reciprocate.... You have your answer, then you can enjoy the rest of your vacation alone or cut it short and go home. At least you'll have a clear answer and there's no point to dwell.

 

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