So you managed to get the first date with that hot girl (or guy)..congrats! So when do you go for the first kiss? How?

For guys, this is a very crucial act of dating. Failure could very well result in being friendzoned by the girl you are pursuing. Do it right, and the relationship can accelerate very fast.

Please share tips, techniques and/or stories.

Just to be clear..this topic is not about the first kiss you got in your life. This topic is about the first kiss when you are dating someone new.

And first kiss here means kissing on the lips, not the peck on the cheek or the hand.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Nov 8 2022, 01:11 PM

I agree, doesnt have to be on first date. My point is dont take too long to try. By date 2 or date 3, should go for it.

U mean, for you, is to wait until girl-guy agree to be a couple and only then kiss?

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Nov 8 2022, 04:45 PM

Wow virgin! Then this thread should be useful for your future reference 😉

My advice is dont be too slow and steady. Of course, u dont junp and kiss out of the blue..a girl will think you are a sex offender. But if you are too slow, you might not get the girl n have wasted time, money n emotion.

Im not a pro n still chicken at heart, but below is my MO ideally:

1st Date : Light touching and hug n good night peck on the cheek

2nd Date : As 1 but add hold hands and look for kiss opportunity, go for it.

3rd Date: As 2 but definitely go for kiss if couldnt do at 2. Potentially here can escalate to bedroom but that could be at date 4 n onwards.

Some things I learned over the years:

1. Girls like assertive n bold men..it doesnt pay to be chicken
2. A girl who likes you like to be kissed by you
3. If a girl has gone 2 to 3 dates with you, they either like you or is just taking advantage of you. Either way go for the kiss.

Sometimes, its worth the risk to be just a little bit forceful with a girl.

When I was first dating my current gf I know shes avoiding the kiss in the beginning. Other than that, we had lots of fun and clicked very well. A lot of laughing and by 3rd date, a lot of innocent touches. Its only at the end of the dates where she will suddenly become cautious and wanted to leave quickly.

(We always drove separately to the dates, so we will say goodbye at the dating venue itself.)

First two dates, she let me have a quick good night hug, but she will then quickly push me away and I let her. On the 3rd date, we did the same hug. But when she tried to push away, I didnt let go and planted a kiss on her lips instead. Then I let go. The date ended there with her looking quite flustered as she got to her car n drove away.

My gf later told me that that first kiss was a good move. Before, her initial view was that Im nice and fun, but she doesnt want/wasnt ready to be serious with me (i was probably going to be friendzoned). However, driving back from the first kiss, she said her heart was beating so fast n she couldnt stop thinking of me the whole night.

We became a couple soon after that.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Nov 11 2022, 12:44 PM

Haha yes still. She is a nice girl.

Btw I didnt meet her via an app tho.

I was introduced to her by a mutual gf friend at a social function. And both of us know about each others existence before that due to the mutual gf. I always thought she was very attractive in the photos Ive seen of her before n was quite excited to finally meet her in person (but of course played it cool).

We got to talk and I then got her number (using some silly excuse). Then it was about a month of texting every few days of nonsensence topics before we agreed on our first date. After the first date we texted daily. There was definite chemistry from my POV.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Nov 11 2022, 11:46 AM

I have known many guys pursuing a girl for months and even years..only to get the friend/brother treatment at the end and the girl go to another man. You dont want that. Life is too short in my opinion to be wasting time like that.

Her car was parked on the street. So it was between the restaurant entrance n her car.

Btw for the dates she refused to be in same car with me...she recognise the danger. 😄

Fyi..a girl in love is very lusty

If she is not lusty for u, then she may not yet be in love with u.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Nov 11 2022, 12:14 PM

1. New Years party

2. To give her some invesment tips. Its so cringy if i think about it 🤣

Beg to differ.

Friendzone for a guy, is where the guy is highly attracted to the girl and they are in some sort of relationship but he cant touch the girl intimately. Its a pretty lousy place to be in for a guy. A girl, esp the attractive ones, like to maintain this type of relationship with guys as they continue to look for higher value man to have intimate relationship with.

Kissing is highly intimate and kissing early avoids the friendzone. The act of kissing releases hormones that make a girl syiok. And its also is a percusor to other sexual acts. Of course, you have to do it right and the girl continues to go out with you after that and the kissing acts continue.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Nov 14 2022, 11:51 AM

Very likely and she has even hinted at being "not ready for relationship" during our earlier texting.

A younger and more innocent me would have just go with the flow, wait for her clear signals and hope something will happen. Older and wiser me takes the initiative and go for it. Its a bit risky but the pay-off is good.

After the 3rd date n suprise kiss, she went into a "confused" mode for about 2 weeks, before we went for our 4th date. We kissed properly on the 4th date. 😊

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Nov 16 2022, 12:01 PM

Actually, we continued texting as normal. We didnt plan any dates because we were both busy with other things.

But she told me later that she was having a big conflict inside her at that time. She didnt want to reply to my texts but she felt addicted to it and was angry at herself for being so.

Women and their complexities huh..

It was lame..i promised to show her how an app work over coffee and she agreed. However, we had 2 failed attempts to meet over coffee and, when we finally met, i made it up to her and changed our meeting to a proper dinner date.

Now as a couple, she also confirmed to me it was lame but she played along as she was BORED. 😆

If both are still texting, the you can try again. Give her space and dont ask her out so soon. Do your own things n occassionally update her. Its also good if you can meet other girls at this time. Your mindset amd actions must be INTERESTED but not DESPERATE.

The girls you met are from dating apps. They are looking and have liked your profile. The girl this SGSuser is going after is a classmate and from what he described hasnt given any indication of interest. The hill is steeper but is not impossible, if he makes the right moves.

But I agree on your point abt festival. Bad time to set a first date. Competition is too high. From her family n her friends. Why would she choose to spend such an important time with a barely known person instead of other more important people?

My first date with my gf was during weekday, after work. It was also impromptu on that day. We were exchanging some text during office hours n I asked her what happen to our coffee plans? She then complained how busy her life has been, working late etc. I then asked her to have dinner with me near her office that evening. Initially I got some standard excuses (dont know what time she finish work, not properly dressed) but i persisted n she finally said ok at 7 pm. Abt 8pm.we were on our first date.

Of course, you will start from being not important, then you progress to become very important.

However, in your case, its also a long distance thing which makes it an even harder game. She might also be thinking LDR is too hard. I think its probably best you dont get your hopes high n be just friends.

Offical already, then better do it soon.

N if want to start forehead, dont do like grandma kiss. Have to do manly romantic style 😉

I belong to the kiss first, official later school.

Actually its ..kiss..sex.. then official.

All consensual of course.

Wow..seriously?

I already graduated 😆

This thread is more to inspire noobs in the game or virgins like Ramjade 😉

My message is dont be shy n try to get the kiss early.